Is respect and common goals are more important than love?

[MzLady]

If someone were to ask you, “Is respect more important than love”, what would your answer be?
personal i believe they go hand in hand although both of them can be breaken or lost easily...

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

There is only one kind of love that is not inconsequential. The love a parent has for it's child and vice versa. Everything else is just lust. There is no such thing as love at first sight - it's lust at first sight. Love in a marriage is not something perennial and it certainly doesn't exist at the start. Love is something that grows and matures like wine and develops from years of experience and knowing oneself as well as your partner.

Find yourself a partner that you can respect and share your ambitions/goals with, because that is what usually develops into love, real love - not lust.

[Theguardian]

There is only one kind of love that is not inconsequential. The love a parent has for it's child and vice versa. Everything else is just lust. There is no such thing as love at first sight - it's lust at first sight. Love in a marriage is not something perennial and it certainly doesn't exist at the start. Love is something that grows and matures like wine and develops from years of experience and knowing oneself as well as your partner.

Find yourself a partner that you can respect and share your ambitions/goals with, because that is what usually develops into love, real love - not lust.

Easy to say than done because for you to consider someone there has to be that first attraction-call it lust but end of the day if you're not feeling the person physically then the chances are you won't consider them as a life partner.
Unless of course it is a force marriage- or marriage of convenience; and these people usually live unhappy lives but to outsiders looks like an ideal marriage because their marriage lasted.

Say, you met a lady, you had a lot in common with- life goals,ambitions and mutual respect but you were not physically attract to her -would you marry her?

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

I didn't say attraction doesn't play a part. But attraction is relative and is not the most important part. To me a highly intelligent average-looking woman is far more attractive than a 10/10 airhead.

As for your question, there are a lot of variables. Is she ugly or just average/homely looking? Is she from a good respectable family? Is she financially responsible? etc.

[Hyperactive]

love can fate, respect is tgwo way road. rahman and to treat people theway God told us is best. even if you hate some one, you will never harm them verbally or physically cause to watch God.

nin Allah yaqan ito hoqooqdisa better and lasts.

[Tuushi]

Common decency, respect and shared goals will always outlast love/lust or any other jaranjar orod lagu korey.

[Bilis]

I didn't say attraction doesn't play a part. But attraction is relative and is not the most important part. To me a highly intelligent average-looking woman is far more attractive than a 10/10 airhead.

As for your question, there are a lot of variables. Is she ugly or just average/homely looking? Is she from a good respectable family? Is she financially responsible? etc.

And here I thought you were a woman all this time.

Sorry if I addressed you as such walaal.

[LiquidHYDROGEN]

I didn't say attraction doesn't play a part. But attraction is relative and is not the most important part. To me a highly intelligent average-looking woman is far more attractive than a 10/10 airhead.

As for your question, there are a lot of variables. Is she ugly or just average/homely looking? Is she from a good respectable family? Is she financially responsible? etc.

And here I thought you were a woman all this time.

Sorry if I addressed you as such walaal.

[Susu000]

I have to say, respect is equally important as love but when it comes to the Union of two people love is absolutely crucial for a healthy marriage. Actually I would more say that both love and respect are intertwined.
A marriage can not function without love, nor can it function without respect. Respect is a very complex thing and requires an understanding of another person that comes from loving him/her

I love my husband but I have to admit that I don't always respect him. But what saves us is that I love him and whenever I'm disrespectful, the love I have for him snaps me out of it.
Had it not been for love, many marriages without respect would have been over.

Essentially, marriage can not function without respect, but it can not function without love becomes that's when you realize the person deserves your respect.

[Susu000]

Think of it like a house.

Love is the walls that surround it and make the house.
Respect is the roof, without the roof, the love will gradually leave through the ceiling and you'll end with a big hole in your house. Then heavy rain in form of arguments, different views, small quarrels come, since the roof is missing the house will he flooded and will essentially need to be evacuated

[AbdiWahab252]

Love is fickle. Having common goals is essential and the glue that holda it all together

[InaSamaale]

There is no such thing as love at first sight - it's lust at first sight. Love in a marriage is not something perennial and it certainly doesn't exist at the start. Love is something that grows and matures like wine and develops from years of experience and knowing oneself as well as your partner.

Find yourself a partner that you can respect and share your ambitions/goals with, because that is what usually develops into love, real love - not lust.

Well said. I concur.