Quick question.

[Tuushi]

about rights of parents from the children.Lets say you are a dude who wasnt raised by his parents and they feel u have obligation to take care of them and u feel the opposite,that they have no right to make demands.Islamically speaking,it is dambi for him to not?

whether he was raised by them or not?

Personaly,i was shocked someone would actually even have the guts to think that way about their waalid.

What do u folks think? Am i being too naive believing parents over him?

[Hyperactive]

i am not one of those religious people who throw quotes and pastes here and there.

but even if didnt rise you or take care of you, they neglected their dues and your rights as a kid, that doesnt release you from your duties and their rights on you. then you just neglating their rights on you just as they did!!

still each will judges seprate it. i dont think in front of God will work middle school reasoning "he started no he started first". each have dties to fullfill and doesnt matter who how many other do the same.

ive seen in my courts, sons cut off their father cause if they support him, he will use their money to drink, so they wanted to just give him food, clothing and pay his bills!! they lost the case and court ordered to keep paying it and supporting his needs and give him the money.

[AgentOfChaos]

Its ajar, not obligation, and entirely depends on one's choice.

[Tuushi]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

[theyuusuf143]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

I have seen my mama only two times. i cant even remember her face but i have been sending money to her every month since the last 8 years. i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. I think waalidku mar walba xaqbuu kugu leeyahay.

[dvision01]

i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. .

looooool

[theyuusuf143]

waar dee thats not funny walee waa iga dhab.

[Skippa]

they neglected their dues and your rights as a kid, that doesnt release you from your duties and their rights on you. then you just neglating their rights on you just as they did!!

[dvision01]

waar dee thats not funny walee waa iga dhab.

Maybe your adeer has another wife back home who is preteding to be your mother. maybe all these years you have been sending money to the wrong person, wa lagu dhacay ninyahow, it can happen this world if full of strange things

[Hyperactive]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

I have seen my mama only two times. i cant even remember her face but i have been sending money to her every month since the last 8 years. i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. I think waalidku mar walba xaqbuu kugu leeyahay.

waaw you are really a good man, mashallah . jazakaAllah khair.

[Inaayah]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

I have seen my mama only two times. i cant even remember her face but i have been sending money to her every month since the last 8 years. i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. I think waalidku mar walba xaqbuu kugu leeyahay.

Yusuf- Why don't you try to take out the time to visit her intay nooshahay?


Sending them money is a noble act (a lot of people would cut ties with walaalidkood oona soo korinin) but I think waalidku wax walba waaxay ka jecel yihiin inay ubadkooda indhaha saaran intaana aduunkan laga kala tagin.

[Tuushi]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

I have seen my mama only two times. i cant even remember her face but i have been sending money to her every month since the last 8 years. i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. I think waalidku mar walba xaqbuu kugu leeyahay.

You`are an awesome person.

Did u ever try connecting with her?

Realize that is very person question,if u dont wish to answer it.

[theyuusuf143]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

I have seen my mama only two times. i cant even remember her face but i have been sending money to her every month since the last 8 years. i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. I think waalidku mar walba xaqbuu kugu leeyahay.

You`are an awesome person.

Did u ever try connecting with her?

Realize that is very person question,if u dont wish to answer it.

yes i have have her mobile number i call her any time.

[Theguardian]

Thanks hyper and Agent.

That`s what i tried to say.I personally rather be wronged than me having to carry the guilt for wronging anyone.

I have seen my mama only two times. i cant even remember her face but i have been sending money to her every month since the last 8 years. i swear am not 100% sure if the person i am sending money to is my mama or not. Adeerkay uunbaa igu yidhi waa yadii isna 80s kii baa muuqeeda ugu danbaysay. I think waalidku mar walba xaqbuu kugu leeyahay.

Wow MashAllah; may Allah reward you.
Can I ask why you were separated - was it due to the fact you move to the west or did she just abandoned you?

I am in the line of - if a parent abandoned their children then they have no right over that child as an adult.
Allah won't punish them for not been there for them because -the argument is-"they were there for you as helpless child -therefore you have to return the favour.
So if they neglected their duty then they lost any rights they have over you as an adult.
Allah knows best.

[InaSamaale]

I'm of the opinion Islamically speaking they still have rights over you. Rights of a waalid is always mentioned after worshiping Allah.


There's also different levels of ihsan we are capable as human beings and also according to the circumstances we find ourselves in. For instance someone raised with both parents in their life who did above and beyond to raise them vs someone whose father or mother wasn't present at all have different capacities in serving their parents.


The first would require a lot more hands on approach to their lives but for the second individual maybe even calling to say hello would be the only good- ihsan they are capable to their estranged parent. Years of hurt and resentment isn't something you can get over the minute you become an adult.