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Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

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Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby BVSNet » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:29 am

When does having a preference for fellow Somalis become prejudistic? Is turning someone who is otherwise (personality, looks and values) compatible simply because they are not Somali justifiable? Does it just mean that you are narrow-minded and backward?

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Sauron » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:32 am

nothing but Somali woman for me :blessed: even the qumayos :blessed:

is you found some ajanabi? it's ok sister most of us don't judge lol

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Lamagoodle » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:40 am

LOL. I thought this was the title of a novel. Sounds like a Leo Tolstoy novel. I think Jane Austin had also a similar title.

From my experience and perspective, I think preference is a very short-term, initial feeling which will wither. Prejudices prevail even after thirst has been quenched. Preferences is often underpinned by short term wants ( a kind of biological mating compass ).

The above is also gendered where societies often mock the preferences of women while - at least for awhile- applauding the preferences of males.

I really don't care and I have an open mind on this kind of issues so I would say preference but many societies are subjects/slaves of the prejudice bug.

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby BVSNet » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:43 am

nothing but Somali woman for me :blessed: even the qumayos :blessed:

is you found some ajanabi? it's ok sister most of us don't judge lol
Why nothing but Somali?

Say you meeting Girl A - you are attracted to her, she has the qualities you like in a human being and scores a 9 out of 10 in the qualities you measure, she's ajnabi. Girl B - a Somali, still decent but just decent scores a 6 out of 10 in all categories, you can see yourself having your okay-ish life with her. Who do you call?

As for your question no, there isn't a specific ajnabi I just never go there. There are lots and lots and lots of ajnabis around me and no matter what I have an aversion to them when it comes to it. My friend says I'm racist, which is the wrong term, it would make me prejudiced and I am actually very open-minded but apparently not with the ethnicity of Mr. BV which might be a concern, depending on how you look at it

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Thuganomics » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:44 am

I have a fetish for Somali women.
Qumayos excluded :arrow:

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby BVSNet » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:45 am

LOL. I thought this was the title of a novel. Sounds like a Leo Tolstoy novel. I think Jane Austin had also a similar title.

From my experience and perspective, I think preference is a very short-term, initial feeling which will wither. Prejudices prevail even after thirst has been quenched. Preferences is often underpinned by short term wants ( a kind of biological mating compass ).

The above is also gendered where societies often mock the preferences of women while - at least for awhile- applauding the preferences of males.

I really don't care and I have an open mind on this kind of issues so I would say preference but many societies are subjects/slaves of the prejudice bug.
You Sir are an outlier so I wouldn't compete with your level of open-mindedness


I have a fetish for Somali women.
Qumayos excluded :arrow:
You're married anyway so it's too late to discuss :lol:

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Lamagoodle » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:49 am

LOL. I thought this was the title of a novel. Sounds like a Leo Tolstoy novel. I think Jane Austin had also a similar title.

From my experience and perspective, I think preference is a very short-term, initial feeling which will wither. Prejudices prevail even after thirst has been quenched. Preferences is often underpinned by short term wants ( a kind of biological mating compass ).

The above is also gendered where societies often mock the preferences of women while - at least for awhile- applauding the preferences of males.

I really don't care and I have an open mind on this kind of issues so I would say preference but many societies are subjects/slaves of the prejudice bug.
You Sir are an outlier so I wouldn't compete with your level of open-mindedness


I have a fetish for Somali women.
Qumayos excluded :arrow:



You're married anyway so it's too late to discuss :lol:
Did you read what I wrote, or are you prejudiced regarding what I wrote to the extent that you did not even read? :lol:

Should I take that as a compliment? But I am being analytical. My approach is to trust my heart (mostly short-run) over my mind ... but many people -in particular younger people- do not have that option.

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Thuganomics » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:52 am

Waa only 1 down still have sedex boos to go

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Sauron » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:54 am

@BV

I have my own reasons as to why I would only marry a Somali woman, mainly concerning about my future kids..half/half is a no no for me tbh :meles: .

and I can always wait for 9/10 or 10/10 Somali girl, I have a got time with me in that department :pac:

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Inaayah » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:54 am

I would choose an average Somali man over a ajanbi who scores a 9 in every category, only because with the Somali man, caruurtayda u baqi maayo inu some foreign country la baxsandoono.

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby BVSNet » Sat Mar 26, 2016 11:55 am

Should I take that as a compliment? But I am being analytical. My approach is to trust my heart (mostly short-run) over my mind ... but many people -in particular younger people- do not have that option.
You test the limits to an extent that is beyond my comfort level.

Are you saying that it's better to trust your heart over your mind?

Waa only 1 down still have sedex boos to go
All eyes can roam and there are 4 in a marriage

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby zumaale » Sat Mar 26, 2016 12:01 pm

I would choose an average Somali man over a ajanbi who scores a 9 in every category, only because with the Somali man, caruurtayda u baqi maayo inu some foreign country la baxsandoono.
:clap:

As for the topic, meh. Marry whatever my heart fancies as long as the woman understands that any kids that come out of her will Beesha Haplogroup T and will be sent to the Badiyo/Mii for them to be acquainted with their Tol.

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby Lamagoodle » Sat Mar 26, 2016 12:02 pm

Should I take that as a compliment? But I am being analytical. My approach is to trust my heart (mostly short-run) over my mind ... but many people -in particular younger people- do not have that option.
You test the limits to an extent that is beyond my comfort level.

Are you saying that it's better to trust your heart over your mind?

Waa only 1 down still have sedex boos to go
All eyes can roam and there are 4 in a marriage
:lol: I have age (wisdom), dough and being the right gender on my side. So I can make choices dictated by my heart. I always go for heart instead of mind. But that does not mean everyone can do it. Many do not have the liberty of taking independent decisions. We are creatures of our context, call it institutional bondage. Thus for many, all roads lead to the mind and the long term impact of decisions should not be discarded.

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby BVSNet » Sat Mar 26, 2016 12:02 pm

I would choose an average Somali man over a ajanbi who scores a 9 in every category, only because with the Somali man, caruurtayda u baqi maayo inu some foreign country la baxsandoono.

:lol: that's exactly what I think to myself whenever I get approached by one

@BV

I have my own reasons as to why I would only marry a Somali woman, mainly concerning about my future kids..half/half is a no no for me tbh :meles: .

and I can always wait for 9/10 or 10/10 Somali girl, I have a got time with me in that department :pac:
So of all the human beings out there you believe there is one that you will find to be a 9/10 or 10/10 who will be available and who will be interested in you and who will be one of the however many million Somalis there are and who you will meet in person during your lifetime and in the meantime any other 9/10 or 10/10 out of the billions of other humans that you meet from any other ethnicity you will turn down?

I am not a statistician but the odds don't look good walaal.

ps as a man how can you even be complaining about half and half, your kids will be whatever you are, it's us ladies that lose out

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Re: Relationship Topic - Preference or Prejudice?

Postby BVSNet » Sat Mar 26, 2016 12:08 pm

I would choose an average Somali man over a ajanbi who scores a 9 in every category, only because with the Somali man, caruurtayda u baqi maayo inu some foreign country la baxsandoono.
:clap:

As for the topic, meh. Marry whatever my heart fancies as long as the woman understands that any kids that come out of her will Beesha Haplogroup T and will be sent to the Badiyo/Mii for them to be acquainted with their Tol.
What if she doesn't understand the cultural nuances? Doesn't ask your guests if they want something to drink, doesn't speak any Somali, isn't impressed with your miyi idea because her culture has more of a written record. No matter how many times you correct her she pronounces it as 'Deer' instead of Dir

:lol: I have age (wisdom), dough and being the right gender on my side. So I can make choices dictated by my heart. I always go for heart instead of mind. But that does not mean everyone can do it. Many do not have the liberty of taking independent decisions. We are creatures of our context, call it institutional bondage. Thus for many, all roads lead to the mind and the long term impact of decisions.
Ah, you have the luxury of being able to do whatever you want without consequence.


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