lol wut?
bal elaborate ..
You know that saying "it takes a village"? That's how we used to raise Somali children. People were constantly around their tribesmen/extended family so as a parent, you could afford to be emotionally or physically absent or to allow Somali boys freedom. Because the wider community would assume the role of socialization of their kids and to their upbringing. Thats is why we have a huge ceeb,xishood culture aka social control and not so much parental control.
Yes i remember, but i dont consider that as raising a child. frist, " community" doesnt live with the kid, they dont interact with the child most of the time, they can provide guidance, advice, correct if the child is misbehaving but they cant teach the kid manners, dont have the connections and bond a parent would have with their child. and if the kid is hardheaded (qalqaali) they may not even bother. the responsibility of raising a child whether its proving shelter/food/lookin after or teaching them manners, responsibilities etc lies with the parents only.
First and foremost do not cut my posts in half and qoute me consistently out of context. It gives off the impression that you are only looking for answers and narratives to solely satisfy your bias and not serious assessment of reality. You have to be able to entertain views that don't coincide with your own.
Secondly like i explained here, which you cut out btw.
Somali parents believe putting a roof over someones head, food and clothing.Their job is done. That is raising a child. When in actuality that is just supporting a childs survival. This not raising in the sense of Parenting.Parenting refers to the aspects of raising a child aside from the biological relationship. It is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.
Providing cleaning, shelter,food and clothing is not Parenting. They do not connect emotionally with the child. Somali parents do not develop the kid emotionally,socially, or intellectually even if they are physically there. Somali parents are largely uninvolved because they emotionally absent.
Children with little or no communication with their own parents tended to be the victims of another child’s deviant behavior and may be involved in some deviance themselves. This also explains why in the west Somali children suffer in social competence, academic performance, psychosocial development and problem behavior.
In Traditional Somali society we have what one would call ''Communal parenting''
Most Somali children have a strong network of extended families who contribute to parenting toddlers to adulthood, through turbulent teenage years. Indeed, many sociologists cite the breakdown of the extended Somali family network for the ills of Somali modern society.
Thats why Somali children typically don't have that much parental control(especially the boys) instead we have a culture empowered by Social control. The community instills behaviors, values and character at the same time look out for you. The community socially pressures you and even shames if you act outside what is moral or outside the collective norms.
Hooyo's and Aabo's hardly do any parenting if not any at all. That responsibility falls onto the extended family aka the village, again this translates poorly in the west.