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Is that what you do leave the kids with hooyo and go partying?somali hooyos no words can describe them
New generation of somali hooyos are something else leaving grandmothers to raise kids while they still are partying
We all have to do better
The sad thing is that hooyo will also raise the children of her daughters who will have a bunch of different fathers.
Not quite but close! There's no denying that our women pull more weight than us when it comes to raising kids. now, its debatable as to why thats the case and its not always farax's fault. but still we gotta do better
Is that what you do leave the kids with hooyo and go partying?somali hooyos no words can describe them
New generation of somali hooyos are something else leaving grandmothers to raise kids while they still are partying
We all have to do better
That's why u r GAYsomali hooyos no words can describe them
New generation of somali hooyos are something else leaving grandmothers to raise kids while they still are partying
We all have to do better
First of all that drawing isn't about Somalis. It is a drawing about African American families. So no it's not a fair representation of the traditional Somali family.
Not quite but close! There's no denying that our women pull more weight than us when it comes to raising kids. now, its debatable as to why thats the case and its not always farax's fault. but still we gotta do better
You must be from the UK i would assume. Even then i would still have to disagree with you, because then that would be an overly generalized view if you believe that is an accurate potrail of Somali families in the west.Frist, i didnt say it was abt somalis but asked if it was an accurate portrait of today's somali familiy specially those in the west. I know how somali family live in africa or back in the day. However, this drawing is an almost accurate portrait of somali families. Whatever the reason is.
You must be from the UK i would assume. Even then i would still have to disagree with you, because then that would be an overly generalized view if you believe that is an accurate potrail of Somali families in the west.Frist, i didnt say it was abt somalis but asked if it was an accurate portrait of today's somali familiy specially those in the west. I know how somali family live in africa or back in the day. However, this drawing is an almost accurate portrait of somali families. Whatever the reason is.
Somalis are largely refuges in the west who don't come with skilled backgrounds .where most are unskilled and illiterate. Somalis are not self selected or recruited into the labor forces like other ethnic minorities. What this creates is an unequal employment balance within households due to the difficulty in accessing the job market due to being under skilled and lack of social networks to navigate.
This is why you have some families in Europe where the father is the bread winners, while some households have the mother as the breadwinner, Some households where the son or nephew is the breadwinner, where as in some households you have the daughter as the breadwinner. Many cases you have 1 persons income spread out to cover a 100 people.
Secondly this also the reason why single parent households in UK in particular is so high as a result of which due to the social economic difficulties Somalis face and the impact of the welfare state.
On the flipside this also gives the contrast as to why in America most Somali families are intact ,80% two parent households according to statistics. Most able bodied Somali man are employed and lead their households at 90%. Contrary to what happens in Europe and Canada because in America it easier to get blue collar low skilled jobs despite having no language proficiencies , also because Somalis have access to social networks into the trucking business and home care etc. Most families are also not on welfare, if they are they get off it quickily because the welfare in America is not sustainable.
So if ''Some'' Somali families in Europe and Canada is similar to that picture it isn't due to it being an accurate portrail or representation. It purely a result of circumstance which many Somalis need to fully comprehend. It is not a gendered issue.
Lastly the reason why i brought up the dilemma of Somali culture , that its too communal oriented and less so familiy oriented. In so far as how it fails to translate in the west. I can go deeper into explaining this if you want.
Like i said in the first post.Traditionally Somali mothers support their kids by cooking and cleaning for them, whereas Somali fathers act as bread winners providing food,shelter, money and security. Two separate roles, both are equal. This is the case in all traditionalist societies from Arab,East Asian, indian and African etc.Remember i said "not quite but close" that means not all somali families are like that. also, being the breadwinner doesnt excuse you from raising your kids physically and helping your wife with the house chores. raising kids is a 24 hours job adeer. i can tell you havnt have ur own yet but its a never ending job.
ps, ha i habaarin, i amnt from that hellhole
lol wut? bal elaborate ..As far as raising the kids. I believe neither the Somali mother nor the father raises the child. Putting a roof over someones head,clothing and food in their mouth is not raising a child. In Somali society what assumes the role of raising the child is often times is the community.
exactly, there are no maids, jobless relatives here who willing to help all the time. marka that "two separate roles" doesnt work here.This however might work in the context and setting of Somalia, this does not however translate well in the west.
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