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MOst people here who claim that love and romance is a heartache and is unreal, are cowards who are afraid of giving themselves to someone and possibly getting hurt.

You people should understand that what you put into a relationship is what you get out it. Some of us are just too goddamn selfish to understand reason.

@ "you people"

Lil cutie........read this



The Man is Head of Household

Question:
IF THE MAN IS NOT THE MAIN SOURCE OF INCOME IS HE CONSIDERED AS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD?

Answer:

Praise be to Allaah.

Qiwaamah (the role of being in charge or head of the household) is one of the things that Allaah has given to men, exclusive of women. What is meant by qiwaamah is that men are entrusted with the task of being responsible for women, to take care of them, to guide them in the best possible way, and to issue commands and prohibitions - just as a ruler takes care of the people under his control.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "...but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [women]..." [al-Baqarah 2:228] and "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means..." [al-Nisaa’ 4:34]

Ibn Katheer said: "This means that men are in charge of women; they govern them and discipline them if they do wrong." Al-‘Allaamah Shaykh al-Shanqeeti said: "This indicates that men are better than women, because the masculine is honour and perfection, whereas the feminine naturally has something lacking physically. All people are agreed on this, because all peoples give women the best of adornments, which is only to make up for this natural lack..."

Rare cases among women are nothing to go by, because the exception does not change the rule.

Some of the reasons why men are given the role of qiwaamah include:

1. Men are more intelligent and have a better ability to distinguish right from wrong. Al-Qurtubi said: "Men have the advantage of being more wise and more capable of management; for this reason they were given the right of qiwaamah." 2. Men’s religion is more complete, because women menstruate and bleed after childbirth, and do not pray or fast at such times - unlike men. 3. Spending money in charity and on one’s family is a duty on men, but not on women.

Thus if a man refuses to spend on his wife, she has the right to seek an annulment of the marriage by going to a Qaadi (Sharee’ah judge).

In summary, qiwaamah is only for men, as is made clear in the Qur’aan. If a woman spends on her husband, herself and her children, this is an act of kindness on her part, as Allaah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): "... but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it (the mahr) to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful)." [al-Nisaa’ 4:4] Qiwaamah is for men in all cases: one can hardly imagine a man asking his wife for permission to go out, for example. And Allaah knows best.


Islam Q&A
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Gedo girl the womans best place is home

Abu 'Ali Talq ibn 'Ali reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "When a man calls his wife to attend to his need, she should come to him, even if she is at the oven." [at-Tirmidhi and an-Nasa'i]



Umm Salama reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Any woman who dies at a time when her husband is pleased with her will enter the Garden."



Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands." [at-Tirmidhi]



Allah says in the Qur'an:

"And the believing men and the believing women, they are the friends of each other, they enjoin good and forbid evil, and establish prayers, and pay the alms, and obey God and His Messenger, these, upon them God will have mercy, indeed, God is almighty, All-wise." (Qur'an 9:71)

Obedience of the husband is compulsory on the wife. If, without any lawful reason, she refuses to obey the orders of her husband, she will be liable to the Wrath and Curse of Allah until she returns to obedience

'we all have human needs that mere roomates cannnot provide.'



Iiiieeeewwww gedo this statement sounds so perverting and nasty that i cringed, puked, puked again and nearly died with the satisfying exillaration of puking. Uuufff! Disgusting love!!!!

Baller@loool Awwwww How romantic u are, thats soooooo sweet!



Puke.

[quote="Basra-"]'we all have human needs that mere roomates cannnot provide.'



Iiiieeeewwww gedo this statement sounds so perverting and nasty that i cringed, puked, puked again and nearly died with the satisfying exillaration of puking. Uuufff! Disgusting love!!!!

Baller@loool Awwwww How romantic u are, thats soooooo sweet!



Puke.[/quote]

Basra,

How's yo baby daddy? Is he out bangin' another female?

Baller shut up u whimp!


Baller so tell me, where do u live @? I am curious.

Helwa, that is the single most shocking thing I have read all day To each his own walaalo. My place is where I want to be and where Allah swt places me.....if you want to be the wife that asks her husband's permission to see her parents, that is you...but we are not all alike.

Basra....I meant children, a cuddle and a 4X4 car.....nothing as gross as what youre imagining

Gedo nothing is wrong bieng home and taking care of ur childeren even none muslims choose to do that but if you see that as control of the husband that is ur own opinion



ps- no wife need to ask her husband a permission to visit her parents

I think its save to say Somali men are clueless when it comes to being romantic, and Somali women has no idea that romance exists which makes it easier for their men.

Fuck Romance its all about the fat pocket with the good looks of course.

Helwa....I didnt say there was anything wrong with it. If you read my posts you would I see that I dont have anything against mums that stay at home. I have a problem with being told what to do, and having someone dictate to me what I can and cant do in my own home. Your post said "one can hardly imagine a man asking his wife for permission to go out, for example"....why does anyone need to tell anyone anything? I basically said 'to each his own', nothing wrong with it....but I choose what I want to do......We are not alike and its very possible that we have different aspirations.

hey you know what, i am married and got kids, my husband and i still believe about this romantic thing, i get roses atleast once a week, we have quite nite once every fortnite with out the kids we get some one to baby sit the kids, i get nice gifts on mothers day, my unniversary and my birthday,my husband tells me he loves me before he leaves home, when he getts home, before he hangs the phone and always out of the blue he tells me how much he loves me, gives me credit for what i do during the day, alhamdullilah got bless him he is so romantic and he never goes to bed b4 me so that means i get massage every nite lol........., so ppl get over it romantic should be something natural not something that you force to do it mate...............

[quote="Edna69"]hey you know what, i am married and got kids, my husband and i still believe about this romantic thing, i get roses atleast once a week, we have quite nite once every fortnite with out the kids we get some one to baby sit the kids, i get nice gifts on mothers day, my unniversary and my birthday,my husband tells me he loves me before he leaves home, when he getts home, before he hangs the phone and always out of the blue he tells me how much he loves me, gives me credit for what i do during the day, alhamdullilah got bless him he is so romantic and he never goes to bed b4 me so that means i get massage every nite lol........., so ppl get over it romantic should be something natural not something that you force to do it mate...............[/quote]

Seriously, I'm gonna cry now...how sweet.

Cutie Anything Ma bella sinorita!


Tell them how Romantic I am and all the things I do for you. I bet Edna's romance anyday.