abdi342 wrote:I sincerly do apologize if my post caused any dismay. I neither did imply anything nor utilized abusive words against any one out here. But I did utter my words. Remember we are brothers and sisters giving each other advice!
Apology accepted walaal. It just seemed like that's what you were implying. Yes, you're right, we're just giving each other advice. Alhamdulillah.
abdi342 wrote:I said there is no age limit in marrage. Every one has right to marry at any age he/she feels is capable. Evenif one is studying at school is perfect once he/ she can subdue or otherwise abandon for the sake of your family unification. If one is threatened to be dismissed from school then is allright continue with your life it is not the end leave school. It is more important to keep your family happy than to put that school on the first category. If you are afraid of being penniless then Allah will enrich you utmost so donot abandon your family keep performing your duties.
I agree with you, there's no age limit to marriage. But I think to have a good education and/or a stable job is necessary before you get married. If you're going to raise a family, it's better to be responsible. To be honest, a mother's education is very important to the child, because she's the one who will pass on her knowledge to the child, since she'll be the primary caregiver. I'd like all my Somali sisters to be educated, insha-Allah. Living in the West means we have a lot of opportunities to gain knowledge (Islamic education, and other types of knowledge) I don't think there's any excuse not to take advantage of all these opportunities. Islam encourages us to learn, and to gain knowledge, from the cradle to the grave. The first Ayah revealed to our Beloved Prophet (saw) was 'Recite, in the Name of your Lord, who has created (all that exists)' [Surah Al-Alaq 1] which shows the importance of education. She can study whilst she's married, but it's going to be really difficult to balance marital life and studies. Personally, I don't think I could balance both. If you had a daughter, at what age would you think she's ready for marriage? Would you want her to complete her education first, or would you marry her off as soon as she's 18?
abdi342 wrote:2- I said you can marry to whom ever you want marry unless a pagan then you commit a zinah. White or black is not essential if he/she is MUSLIM. Think to whom you are marrying in order to accomplish ever lasting marriage.
Yes, true. I agree. You should marry someone you're compatible with, and someone who will bring you closer to Allah (swt).
abdi342 wrote:Firefly your posts are confronting each other and not relavant to mine! Lower gaze or fasting is in this matter for youths but marriage is indeed ADVISABLE!
Dropouts... how many dropouts we have seen and not married. It is not nonsensical. Many are dismissed or banned for enterance due to drug adict or something else.
I'm not sure I understand, what do you mean my posts are confronting each other? How is it not relevant? If man/woman is unable to get married, because they don't have the money, but they fear committing Zina, they should try hard to lower their gaze, fast more, and try hard not to mix with the opposite gender. All I'm saying is marriage is not the ONLY answer if you want to avoid falling in to Zina, there are other ways to prevent yourself. I don't think you should rush into marriage, especially 18 yr olds, most of them are not capable of taking on all the responsibilities of marriage.