Girlfriends

[Lord Diplock]

You guys are funny, there is no way a heterosexual man could be a 'friend' with a girl without him showing some interest down the line, apart from sisters (and cousins) I don't think I have been closed or be friendly with girls, it is a big no, no in my book.

Men are attracted to women and don't be fooled to think 'he won't show interest in me' since am his 'mate' (friend) . How bizzare for a man to hang with a lady he is not in relationship with it, married to, what would the conversation be about? very disturbing, maybe am old school Somali bloke, but that is my view.

[DisplacedDiraac]

^ I agree..

[Ka darag]

You guys are funny, there is no way a heterosexual man could be a 'friend' with a girl without him showing some interest down the line, apart from sisters (and cousins) I don't think I have been closed or be friendly with girls, it is a big no, no in my book.

Men are attracted to women and don't be fooled to think 'he won't show interest in me' since am his 'mate' (friend) . How bizzare for a man to hang with a lady he is not in relationship with it, married to, what would the conversation be about? very disturbing, maybe am old school Somali bloke, but that is my view.

LOOOOOOOOOL it's true...attraction develops somehow , even if it was innocent to begin with....usually end in a disaster tbh

[Murax]

Horta BV bal su'aashan iga jawaab..nin iyo naag saaxib ihi maxay ka wada sheekeystan..do you guys shop together..share secrets..sleep over eachother houses etc etc...excuse me for my reer baadinimo but i never had a male friend so uppdate me bal..

Hit the nail on the head, waa arrin yaab leh


Honestly speaking Men and Women are friends in only one of two scenarios. Either the Guy likes the girl but the girl made it clear to Him She is not interested in Him, so He decides to become Her "friend" in the hopes that one day She'll come around on Him. Or the Girl likes the Guy, and the Guy is just not interested so She thinks if She remains His friend She'll have a chance. Only other scenario is the Guy is a fag.

[haxxor]

It is also big no-no in my book too. But it's difficult for me because I go to mixed school. Apparently, a girl has become one of my friend (really classmate) after 1 year of being together. Now she began to show an interest in me and she really looks hot girl but I'm not taking her. All I can do is play (mind) games with her because I'm still in her classes.

I don't even befriend with Somali girls. Somalis are rare in my school, less than 5-10 exists.

[BlackVelvet]

Friendships are whatever you make them. Avoiding the opposite sex because they will fall in love with you or you with them is a bit melodramatic really.

[Murax]

Friendships are whatever you make them. Avoiding the opposite sex because they will fall in love with you or you with them is a bit melodramatic really.

Its not about avoiding the opposite sex, but Men understand and relate better with other Men, and Women with other Women. The relationship I have with a girl will never be like the one I have with a Guy and vice versa. Only way a Guy/Girl can be friends is if the Girl is sorta Tomboyish and the Guy is a tad bit shall we say feminine that way they will relate more.

[Lord Diplock]

Friendships are whatever you make them. Avoiding the opposite sex because they will fall in love with you or you with them is a bit melodramatic really.

What are you on about BV? There can be no friendship between a guy and girl without some ulterior motive, you don't the same interest and hanging with him or her is odd and peculiar. Am 'friendly' and 'chatty' on these pages with 'female' (only God knows if they are all females) members, but I wouldn't befriend them in the real world.

[sexy-kitten]

I don't have to worry about THAT because my girlfriends have moved to different states. I am not the type to have A LOT of girlfriends. There are only two that I'd count on in my city, the rest have all moved away. As far as guy friends, they're all over the place but I just don't see them that much due to hectic schedule. The newest guyfriend I have has been in my life for the past 5 years. That's what happens when you grow up in a city. Ciyaalka xaafada and schoolmates all grow up as well and we all become friends as adults!

[Warsan_Star_Muslimah]

Friendships are whatever you make them. Avoiding the opposite sex because they will fall in love with you or you with them is a bit melodramatic really.

Horta, this may be a bit off tangent....I'm currently battling with myself....on whether I should continue being friends with these girls or not....I have no "good" girlfriends anymore! I hang out with two sets of girls...on one set, they always go to sheeshas, sometimes party, and are a bit too wild for me!!! N on the other, they r the epitome of Somali girls...they xan, xin, and talk about each other's back....they r the smarter and more intelligent bunch tho'...they all graduated from college and have careers...but its just that they r FAKE to each other N I HATE that...Dunnoe what to do


Mind you all that I was friends with these girls since middle school

Give the sisters who are sincerely trying to practise the deen a chance Oliveoil, for the most part it should be smooth sailing with them.

Honestly though [and sadly] all friendships can have problems. In fact, in all relationships with your follow humans, there's no easy sailing. Whether you overlook it or not, is something the person decides.

Just the other day, me and my timo jilac friend were having an issue. She was slightly getting annoyed with me, and I with her. However, we never spoke about it, and Alhamdulilah have ignored 'whisperings', and now we are speaking as always.

[Warsan_Star_Muslimah]

Guys can be just as bad as females.The things they say about their females friends behind their back is disgusting. Anyway, I tend to prefer hanging around females than male mostly because of the comfort level.But now that I go to all female school the chances of me ever having "male" friends is very slim.

Ditto!

I can't do it, just not comfortable to be honest.

It would feel that I'm going against what I practise.

[SultanOrder]

I have no problems being friends with the opposite sex, as long as we are not around each other 24hrs a day. I don't call them except once in a blue moon, and I may get together with them to go out for lunch or dinner, but at the end of the day we got our own stuff to take care of. I mean yeah they may be attractive people, but I don't befriend people I want to date.

[BlackVelvet]

To be honest as I've grown older I have become more pragmatic with the relationships I form. If we stand to mutually benefit from knowing each other then I am all up for it and I don't discriminate based on gender. Like SK said, some people you've grown up around and you enjoy each other's company so you stay friends but apart from those guys I don't go out of my way to become best friends with men, some people you click with and others you don't.

[HalfDzed]

Its usually the insecure, little girls who think every dude who either befriends them or talks to them somehow wants them.

NEWSFLASH: YOU ARE DELUSIONAL!


Thank you ferry much.