ever been in more than 1 relationship ? can it work ??

[VeiledGarbasar]

Horta, isn't it wrong to lead people on? How can I talk to one person in the hopes that I might marry them, and then talk to another in that similar fashion last but not least I'm feeling the 3rd faraax the most and know I will marry him as soon as he asks? What about the other two guys....I have also noticed that Somalis see this as fine, but to me it seems morally wrong. What do you lot think?


Alpha, Like I have the guts to ask any dude to stick around. It is disrespectful, I guess desperate times calls for desperate measures.

- Anyways for now I'm off.

[Enlightened~Sista]

[Alphanumeric]

Veil,

I agree, I think it's wrong to lead people on. The thing is, I think most people blur the line between being a friend and being a flirt. Then there are the many who feel even talking to someone of the opposite gender in friendly terms is suggestive. It becomes difficult to know where the line even is.

[Adali]

Horta, isn't it wrong to lead people on? How can I talk to one person in the hopes that I might marry them, and then talk to another in that similar fashion last but not least I'm feeling the 3rd faraax the most and know I will marry him as soon as he asks? What about the other two guys....I have also noticed that Somalis see this as fine, but to me it seems morally wrong. What do you lot think?


Alpha, Like I have the guts to ask any dude to stick around. It is disrespectful, I guess desperate times calls for desperate measures.

- Anyways for now I'm off.

I feel the same way, it is not good to lead people on, I certainly wouldn't want it happen to me, but most likely you will find out sooner or later that the person isn't into you but just keeping you around for unknown reasons.

I think I will start to feel bad later on, right now it is just

[salool]

Horta, isn't it wrong to lead people on? How can I talk to one person in the hopes that I might marry them, and then talk to another in that similar fashion last but not least I'm feeling the 3rd faraax the most and know I will marry him as soon as he asks? What about the other two guys....I have also noticed that Somalis see this as fine, but to me it seems morally wrong. What do you lot think?

It's not leading on if you never promised them anything, besides he is probably doing the same thing to you.Only Few females do this though, most feamles focus at one person at the time.Laakin nimanka boqolaal bey shukaansan at the same time, anyway it's good to have options.

soomalidu waxay tidhaah naagi kuna way shukaansata midna way ka guursata.

[Tuushi]

Horta, isn't it wrong to lead people on? How can I talk to one person in the hopes that I might marry them, and then talk to another in that similar fashion last but not least I'm feeling the 3rd faraax the most and know I will marry him as soon as he asks? What about the other two guys....I have also noticed that Somalis see this as fine, but to me it seems morally wrong. What do you lot think?

It's not leading on if you never promised them anything, besides he is probably doing the same thing to you.Only Few females do this though, most feamles focus at one person at the time.Laakin nimanka boqolaal bey shukaansan at the same time, anyway it's good to have options.

soomalidu waxay tidhaah naagi kuna way shukaansata midna way ka guursata.

While it is good to have options,it is very disrecpectful and deceiteful to those involved.Unless of cause,one were to be an openly communicated situation.

[KingMJ]

Only two

You can talk to as many girls as you want... you're not married there's no commitment until the nikah fam.

Is this also vice-versa?

Do you think we girls should be chatting to multiple guys at the end choosing the one we like?

But girls learnt from us guys now and they do this too SMH

[salool]

Horta, isn't it wrong to lead people on? How can I talk to one person in the hopes that I might marry them, and then talk to another in that similar fashion last but not least I'm feeling the 3rd faraax the most and know I will marry him as soon as he asks? What about the other two guys....I have also noticed that Somalis see this as fine, but to me it seems morally wrong. What do you lot think?

It's not leading on if you never promised them anything, besides he is probably doing the same thing to you.Only Few females do this though, most feamles focus at one person at the time.Laakin nimanka boqolaal bey shukaansan at the same time, anyway it's good to have options.

soomalidu waxay tidhaah naagi kuna way shukaansata midna way ka guursata.

While it is good to have options,it is very disrecpectful and deceiteful to those involved.Unless of cause,one were to be an openly communicated situation.

The problem is, there are to many players out there who have no intention of settling down anytime soon.They will lead you on and play with ur emotions.How many women waited for a guy to propose in yrs , why they waste their precious time on someone who is not ready is beyond me.

Khiyaamada ma fiicna nabsiga dadka wa la iska ilaaliya.Laakin dada ilaahy ka baqaneyn oo waqtigaaga ka luminaya.Pple who are not ready to get married yet, should't be in a relationships at all and be honest about it.

[VeiledGarbasar]

I know someone who's been with a guy for 7 years, for 7 years they've been in the process of getting married. That is just sad.

[Tuushi]

I know someone who's been with a guy for 7 years, for 7 years they've been in the process of getting married. That is just sad.

U think one of them is holding on for chance of the other to change? Must be one very patient chick.

If communicated openly,some people do stay together (not in the physical sense) to help each other reach their goals.

The only example i ever saw and was really amazed was a distant cousin who was with the guy for almost 8 years before they got married.

For some folks,having something there without any sexually frenzy is all they need and are capable of it.As rare as it may be.

[VeiledGarbasar]

The thing is Tusshi my dear Muushi lol,

When a guy says we'll get married, then forms an excuse to why it cannot happen, and then says we will get married again, and then forms another excuse. In the meantime the years are going, it is safe to assume then, he is leading you on.

The obviously it depends on the case, but generally when your with someone and you want to get married, because you feel that your at that stage, yet they don't want to but don't tell you, that is being lead on.

[Tuushi]

Veiled,garbasaar qurux.

Somaalidu waxay dhahaan,lax walba meesha ee isdigto ayaa lagu qalaa.

If she went into this whole relationship for marriage and it didnt happen for few years,maxaa meesha dhigay?

Aniga waxaan ka hadlayaa;others who get into such a situation while fully aware marriage isnt in the pic for a long time.

Saas ayaan udhahay,waa naag samir badan.

[VeiledGarbasar]

So true tuushi, qof walbo waa meeshay is dhigtay. At the same time it is so sad to witness. Naagaha are also very soft, the fall in love and then tend to be blinded by that, and unlike the guys time is more important for us (especially if they want a family).

There are also other complications, for example getting married to a guy who's family might not like you and you've been with him for so long. It is so sad then for you to be divorced due to family reasons. All those years.

[Tuushi]

It can be very sad indeed.

But dnt u learn that a little earlier when u still have a chance to exit before kids or heavy attachements come into play.

I know what u mean.They fall in love and make themselves believe time will change the person.

I know it might sound heartless and cold,but no one should subject themselves into being married to a family that dislikes u.The moment u realize u r not wanted there(i am not talking abt his sisters getting territorial etc) but seriously dislike by his parents,walk away.

[Alphanumeric]

Seems the solution to the above is to talk to as many people as you can for the purpose of marriage, just in case.

If it's done right, it shouldn't take years to meet someone's parents. That's foolish.