So, I'm wondering how much effort will you put into trying to create distance between each pregnancy? It's recommended for a woman to wait 18-23 months to replenish all the nutrients she lost and breast feed the first child for close to two yrs before getting pregnant again.
There will always be some wonderful S'netters who will yell "Xaraam" in different ways, however, I do believe that Islam covers every subject and matter concerning humans, and breast feeding, pregnancy, and child spacing is no different.
So the information below is for those who think everything in Islam is black or white.
“Mothers shall suckle their children for two whole years; (that is) for those who wish to complete the suckling....(2:233)
In this context, Sheikh Ja'far At-Talhawi, a prominent Al-Azhar scholar, adds the following:
"There is nothing wrong if the spouses plan their family by having intervals between the births for the following several reasons:
(1) This enables the mother to have an adequate period for rest to recover and return her strength, and
(2) enables the child to complete the period of suckling for two years. It is well-known that frequent pregnancies without considering this spacing affect both the mother and the infant.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "…gheelah (pregnancy during the period of breastfeeding) overtakes the rider and throws him from the horse." (Reported by Abu Dawud, this means that the child who nurses from a pregnant mother will suffer from it in later life like a horseman who is thrown from his horse.)"
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The prophet (PBUH) said: "I was about to forbid Al-Gheelah (having intercourse with one's wife while she is breastfeeding), and then I remembered that the Romans and Persians did so, and it did not harm their children.” [Muslim]
Narrated Asma, daughter of Yazid Ibn as-Sakan: I heard the Apostle of Allaah (peace be upon him) as saying: 'Do not kill your children secretly, for the milk, with which a child is suckled while his mother is pregnant, overtakes the horseman and throws him from his horse.' This means that the child who nurses from a pregnant mother will suffer from it in later life like a horseman who is thrown from his horse
Imam Abu Sulaiman Al Khattabi explaining the hadith says, “The Prophet (pbuh) is indicating that when the husband has intercourse with his breastfeeding wife, which results in pregnancy, it reduces her milk, thus depriving the suckling child, as it is being nourished from that milk, hence weakening the suckling child”. (Ma’aalim Al Sunan of Imam Abu Sulaiman Al Khattabi)
Imam Ibn Qayyim Al Jawziyyah writes, “The prohibition (of intercourse with the wife during a period of time, when she is breastfeeding a child) means either:
1) A recommendation and advice (not necessarily absolute haram prohibition)
2) A disliked (makruh) prohibition (not forbidden)
(See Tahdheeb of Imam Ibn Al Qayyim Al Jawziyyah on the Sharh of Sunan Abi Dawood)
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