Would you ever change for a man?

[Cherine]

E.g
If you don't wear hijab or you do and he deems it not 'asturan' enough (even if you wear it, just imagine you didn't, would you put it on for a man)
if you wear surwaal and he tells you I don't want to ever see you in one.(again imagine you were it, if you don't already)
If he told you that he will be the one who will go out there and work and bring the money. What will you reply with.

[BlackVelvet]

If he told you that he will be the one who will go out there and work and bring the money. What will you reply with.

Acudubillah mina sheytani rajeem

If you don't wear hijab or you do and he deems it not 'asturan' enough (even if you wear it, just imagine you didn't, would you put it on for a man)
if you wear surwaal and he tells you I don't want to ever see you in one.(again imagine you were it, if you don't already)

Depends

If we're not married then it's a see you later, clearly not compatible
If we're married and he'd never made an issue about it beforehand I'd tell him I'll be wanting to claim back mis-sold PPI
If we're married and he had brought it up then see point 1


Hijaab is something that is good for the woman herself however a man telling me how to dress is not something I can stomach. I see it as step 1 of mental and physical enslavement.

[LobsterUnit]

Cherine ,although i feel jealous,congrats walaal..

[Advo]

stop being silly, every girl does!

When chicks get the love bug, logic stops functioning to the point she will disown her family for the dude

[Vivacious]

Depends on what he calls hijaab. I dress modestly right now and if that's not enough for him then that's his problem.

As for the last question, I am not gonna sit with my hands folded and wait for him to bring food home. So I agree with Jas, "allahuma najeynaa" Being a housewife is not in my book anyway.

[STARKAST]

My advice too all Somali Ladies is not to ask other women for advice, I'll advise them too visit a masjid and talk to the imam. Some Women (not ladies) are toxic.

[Cherine]

If he told you that he will be the one who will go out there and work and bring the money. What will you reply with.

Acudubillah mina sheytani rajeem

If you don't wear hijab or you do and he deems it not 'asturan' enough (even if you wear it, just imagine you didn't, would you put it on for a man)
if you wear surwaal and he tells you I don't want to ever see you in one.(again imagine you were it, if you don't already)

Depends

If we're not married then it's a see you later, clearly not compatible
If we're married and he'd never made an issue about it beforehand I'd tell him I'll be wanting to claim back mis-sold PPI
If we're married and he had brought it up then see point 1


Hijaab is something that is good for the woman herself however a man telling me how to dress is not something I can stomach. I see it as step 1 of mental and physical enslavement.

Lol@ Acuudubillah & missold ppi.

I agree with you. I guess we Somalis are fortunate, carabta and South Asians ayuu ku badanyahay this way of thinking.

One of my friends is married and maalin bey igu tidhi 'i dress like a teenage girl waainaan surwaalka iska daayo doesn't suit me as a married woman'. If she expected some kind of discouragement she certainly didn't get it from me. I don't understand why anyone would dress like a waddaadad when they're not wadaadad.

Men are confused beings, they say they want something when in fact, deep down if they're honest with themselves they want the exact opposite.

[Cherine]

Cherine ,although i feel jealous,congrats walaal..

What's that saying 'gabadhu kun nin ayeey la sheekeeysataa midna wey guursataa'



Btw i'm talking generally aniga iguma saabsana this topic.

[Marques]

I would change for my wife if it makes me a better person.

[Cherine]

To be honest i wouldn't like a guy who forced me into work too. They are just as bad as kuwaa ku idhaahda afar gidaar ii daawo the whole day.

[Cherine]

I would change for my wife if it makes me a better person.

What would you change?

[SultanOrder]

Everyone changes, and if you think you can go into marriage and stay the way you are, you are crazy. Marriage by it's nature is a change from being single to being married. Now, what I think most girls are against is force and compulsion and fitting into a mold you are not ready. My advice is get married with someone whom you are compatible and that way nothing drastic happens.

[GeoSeven]

Cherine, females are generally more susceptible to emotional and behavioral contagion in a relationship, meaning that the husband and his nature rubs off onto the wife. She'll be changing for him without even knowing it.

[greenday]

Cherine, females are generally more susceptible to emotional and behavioral contagion in a relationship, meaning that the husband and his nature rubs off onto the wife. She'll be changing for him without even knowing it.

I think its the opposite.




I know someone who started to wear hijab after marriage but she wasn't a Somali. Mid Somali waxa lagu fure naa hada walagu qabaahe is astur a stupid mistake people make is to assume people will change, a simple conversation before marriage can set the rules.

[BlackVelvet]

I think it also depends on how the man goes about it. In general people use different ways of communication, even with us when you think of all the annoying habits you will probably discover your husband has. You'll have a variety of options on how to deal with it; honest and straightforward, aboow macaan/hunno gacal, bribery, you'd look better in this than that oh how pretty/handsome you look (when you wear what I told you to)

Different things work on different people. I think happy couples have just figured out where their spouse falls and used this insight to their advantage.