Uhm the only thing that would concern me is having people over. But that is non issue because Somali xeer dictates that you only have those type of meetings if both people are Tolka.
There is no issue if she is involved in her tribal issues it happens all the time, some of the biggest tribal activists I know are eedos married to shisheeye. In the Somali cultural context there is nothing wrong with that.
Nah tribal activists I couldn't deal with Ilaaha ileh. I couldn't even stomach a tribal activist from my own qabiil ku kale mashee
I'm meant those that are just involved. To be honest qabil isn't much of an issue, my dad done married from abgal, to Ogaden, to rahanwayne, to most recent HG. And there is no one I know more qabiliste than him. He just wants me to just get married and doesn't care what their qabil is. If your only influence to other qabiliste is on Snet than I can see why you are scarred.