Cabdala Iyo Cawa-Reere

[Ismahan445]

I have been in Cali for about 9 months dealing with Mexicans..I need out. Plus I don't like SD beaches, full of womenizers and weird Mexicans....

[AbdiWahab252]

Isamahan:



Every beach is full of womanizers.

But enjoy your trip and if you get time, go up to Hilton Head.

In the summer, you should check out Cape Cod in Massachusetts and definately visit Martha's Vineyard.

About SD, do you know folks out there ? I used to have an ex who lives near where you are.

[Ismahan445]

EX-huh, I hope she ain't sacad, because I would be disappointed that you broke her heart


My Aido macaan lives in SD and few other sacad families that she is friends with....they have like their own little community there. I go drive there sometimes over the weekends to visit, but I don't spend alot of time there.

[AbdiWahab252]

[quote="Ismahan445"]EX-huh, I hope she ain't sacad, because I would be disappointed that you broke her heart

So abaayo,

How am I supposed to do any shuukansi if I don't take the risk of breaking someone's heart ?



or do you want me to end up with Shiisheye ?

I was planning to visit SD in April and wanted to know if there were any Sacad folks there

[Ismahan445]

Sounds like someone has commitment problems.

[AbdiWahab252]

Isamahan

Stop sounding like her

I commit only if she tickles my fancy & i can see myself spending time with her for the rest of my life.

It ain't my fault if she goes pyscho & becomes obessive walaal.

[Ismahan445]

Psych o:lol: Thats just part of being a woman. it seems like even if you like someone, you have have to hurt them b4 they hurt you...that is fear of commitment. Or maybe you have wondering eyes so yo have to break it off..Sorry i'm play psychologist here.

You think she is psycho, I say its part of being a woman, and thats the beauty of relationships you fight and make up

[AbdiWahab252]

Isamahan Xuux

Abaayo, what if she proposes to me ? and then proceeds to go to my Mom and tell her that we are getting married yet I know nothing of it ?

Its a disturbing trend and I will settle for the first Xalimo who rejects me on my 1st tries & refuses to be obessed with me.

[Ismahan445]

trust me obessive women will drive you crazy....its just a matter of finding a balance. However, if she is proposing she got problems. I don't think women should say yes to first dates or be run over by men let alone be obessive about a man. IF that is the case homegurl got problems. Good thing you don't live in Cali. I don't think couples should talk about marriage until they know about the limits that they can stand each orther or may be for couple of years into dating.

[AbdiWahab252]

Wow, Isamahan:

I guess they broke the mold after you were born.

Mashallah, you are so rational. There seems to be a rush among the sisters to get married quickly instead of allowing the courtship to play out.

[Ismahan445]

I think being rational could only work out better for both ppl esp the girl, because if you really think about it you come to understand the person and if you rush to things and it end up not working out its always the girl playing the prize. See if a women is divorced she is always labeled but a man can always move on.

[Karbaash_killa]

AW..brada you have alot of patient with women i tell ya....

Your the opposite of me...when it comes to marriege....

I have two catogories.....

Friends and those i have a friend ship .... because i simply dont do relationship..

Friends are my ni99az and others that i grew up with..

Those i have frienship are usually girls... you work out why...

as for marriege it has to be quick before i loose intrest

[Ismahan445]

kk...looks like you don't mind getting a divorce. Why you wanna rush yourself? Besides if you really are interested in someone, why are you afraid of losing interest. What happens if you are interested at the beginning and than when you get marriage, its lost because her true colors come out?

[Karbaash_killa]

No wallahi....

im not like the divorcing type... lucky my one is in the family.. if we have a dispute...i'll count on the family to execute the diciplinary lessons so im not worried about divorce... but come on do you really need to hang about with each other 18months to get serious..??

AW can you really keep your hands tied for 18 month just to get to know every litle do'sand don'ts about her....or do you believe in the .."its there for me to take anyway" philosophy

[Ismahan445]

KK I'm very happy you found her. No if the one you marry is in the family or not the relationship will alwayz come with matrital dispute. Yes, marry your ppl is a bonus, but does that gurantee you that the person will make you happy for enternaty? In order to know the personality and get a sense of what the person is looking for in a marriage, yes you need to hang out and talk. Here in the disapora, life is not llike back home where everyone trusted each other and valued the courtship of marriage that is why ppl talk for along time before they consider to marry. It doesnt have to be 18 months but also it doesn't have to be six months either.