Ismahan,
The whole marriage talk never came up until this past fall. We were taking things day by day and not planning to rush into things. She did like the Somali culture and met a few of my extended family who for mistook her for being Somali based on looks alone.
I think that she might have been spooked at how recently I have become more active in Somali life and the fact her new Somali friend told her about how Somalis tend to do arranged marriages . So her suspicions became hightened when I started going out of town a lot & would be visiting more Somali families.
I don't consider it a waste of time to date someone at all. its a waste when you go into a relationship with the expectation of guur & not discuss it with the person.
Converting anyone is not my job. I believe it is better for her to become a Muslim because she wanted to do it & not cause of me. I know some really lovely Latina converts at the Masjid who found Islam on their own & others who converted cause of man. Guess which ones lasted longer in their faith, the ones who converted prior to meeting any Muslim man.
I don't know, I broke up with someone like 5 months ago and just got busy with school.