boyfriend issues

[sijuiwoman23]

Asalam aleykum,

basically i have been seeing this guy for abt 3 years and i recently started practising islam and i now realise having a boyfriend in islam is haram. i am very much in love with this guy. and now am torn in between 2 things wanting to see this guy every now and again and wanting to obstain from haram. i am realy depressed, so the only way i can make our relationship halal is by getting married. and he hasnt asked me to marry him and i cant ask him am way to shy. so i just want to know is there dua that i can make to make us end up together ... i know this sounds like a joke but i am realy desparte for this guy. or can you suggest away of making him marry me without actually me asking him. i just wana be with him and be a good muslim.

thanks in advance

[Crocodile Tears]

- send a postcard to him if u dat shy to ask him in person to marry u
- start calling him hubby instead of his name
- ask him to go wiv u to buy some baby clothes, tell him u wanna have his baby "when u get married" LooooLz


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[SOUFSIDE]

^^ lol @ ask him to go wiv u to buy some baby clothes, tell him u wanna have his baby "when u get married" hahaha

anyways wallal if you love the guy an he loves you then i dont see why not..talk about marriage more see how he reacts to it who knows he might be thinking the same thing, wish you the best sis

[Dhers]

Wa alaykuma salam firstly bro/sizz ask Allah for sincere forgiveness just repent! The doors of repentance are always open. Secondly if your serious about this then I suggest you pray salat istikhara. http://makkah.wordpress.com/2006/12/25/ ... istikhara/ If he does not want to go with marrying you thus making your relationship halal then just leave him. If you leave him for the sake of Allah Allah will give you someone better than him insha Allah.

[Oxy-]

dont be shy in asking him.. or at least drop him hints that u wish 2 take the relationship further..

[Muktaaar]

poster,

tell ur bf that
u are not giving ur kooochie 4 free no mo
ask him to marry u
if he says no
then leave him 4 good

[DisplacedDiraac]

[quote="Dhers"]Wa alaykuma salam firstly bro/sizz ask Allah for sincere forgiveness just repent! The doors of repentance are always open. Secondly if your serious about this then I suggest you pray salat istikhara. http://makkah.wordpress.com/2006/12/25/ ... istikhara/ If he does not want to go with marrying you thus making your relationship halal then just leave him. If you leave him for the sake of Allah Allah will give you someone better than him insha Allah.[/quote]


Salatu istikhara isn't that straight forward, and it doesn't give you a straight cut answer like 'marry him or not' etc. But its worth a try, you might get negative or a positive reaction from it.

I would advice you to make dua, and if its meant to be it'll BE.
Anyways be straight forward with him and tell him you've become more religious *alxamdullah* and you want to Lead a strictly Islamic lifestyle, and your situation/relationship is breaking the laws of Islam, therefore you can't carry on with the relationship as it is right now. But tell him you would like to carry on with your relationship but only on Islamic grounds. Than sit back and see his reaction. If he tries to astray you from the right path, tell him to f**k off, walahi he isn't worth it if he does that. You'll find someone WAY better, especially since you've started practicing the deen.

[Abdi_westldn]

[quote="WestLdnShawty"][quote="Dhers"]Wa alaykuma salam firstly bro/sizz ask Allah for sincere forgiveness just repent! The doors of repentance are always open. Secondly if your serious about this then I suggest you pray salat istikhara. http://makkah.wordpress.com/2006/12/25/ ... istikhara/ If he does not want to go with marrying you thus making your relationship halal then just leave him. If you leave him for the sake of Allah Allah will give you someone better than him insha Allah.[/quote]


Salatu istikhara isn't that straight forward, and it doesn't give you a straight cut answer like 'marry him or not' etc. But its worth a try, you might get negative or a positive reaction from it.[/quote]

Istikhara is basically asking Allah to put you where the kheyr is for you i.e. If its in your kheyr to marry the dude then you do and if it isnt kheyr for you to bring your somebody else who is kheyr for you wallahu aclam.

[#1Nemesis]

Best advice. Abandon Islam and continue fockin tha guy. You will be much better off in tha long run.

[Ladie]

^^ astahfurallah..

Islam is the way of life..

if u abandon Islam u have no life.

so ridiculous.

POSTER.. its true.. if he pulls you away from the deen he ain't worth it.

make dua and pray.

Ladie_x

[WasteMan]

^ hes a gaal so what do u expect

[WasteMan]

Cut all the contact with the dude and lead ur life according 2 islam, if he feels half the same for u he will ask for ur hand.

[DisplacedDiraac]

[quote="Abdi_westldn"]

Istikhara is basically asking Allah to put you where the kheyr is for you i.e. If its in your kheyr to marry the dude then you do and if it isnt kheyr for you to bring your somebody else who is kheyr for you wallahu aclam.[/quote]


Yeah i know what it means, but the answer or the message you get from it isn't always straight forward because it doesn't give you a simple answer. Well thats what i've experienced anyways. And some times it gives you mixed messages, both negatives and positives feedback, but you should always go with your gut instinct or re-do the salat over and over again until you get a message which is clear enough for you.
Some people do the salat for weeks on end and yet they get no reply or a clear cut message, But yeah istikhara would probably work *if done properly*. We need to remembler that Istikhara is not a *magic'* solution, its only a guidance to make the right decision, but there are conditions to be met when making Istikhara, and you should do it genuinely and with patience.

[Abdi_westldn]

[quote="WestLdnShawty"][quote="Abdi_westldn"]

Istikhara is basically asking Allah to put you where the kheyr is for you i.e. If its in your kheyr to marry the dude then you do and if it isnt kheyr for you to bring your somebody else who is kheyr for you wallahu aclam.[/quote]


Yeah i know what it means, but the answer or the message you get from it isn't always straight forward because it doesn't give you a simple answer. Well thats what i've experienced anyways. And some times it gives you mixed messages, both negatives and positives feedback, but you should always go with your gut instinct or re-do the salat over and over again until you get a message which is clear enough for you.
Some people do the salat for weeks on end and yet they get no reply or a clear cut message, But yeah istikhara would probably work *if done properly*. We need to remembler that Istikhara is not a *magic'* solution, its only a guidance to make the right decision, but there are conditions to be met when making Istikhara, and you should do it genuinely and with patience.[/quote]

Basically dont think to hard just let it happen.

[Oxy-]

[quote="#1Nemesis"]Best advice. Abandon Islam and continue fockin tha guy. You will be much better off in tha long run.[/quote]



i shouldn't have laughed at this...
istafurilah