Experiencing Financial Abuse - H E L P!

[MujahidAishah]

Help hoyo is tryna jack me for my hagbad it's all kicking off in the Waqooyi household

[SolidCamel]

Help hoyo is tryna jack me for my hagbad it's all kicking off in the Waqooyi household

I thought you were a Hooyo yourself

[MujahidAishah]

yes I am

but I have a hoyo too.

[EvolSyawla]

^ lool

Stay strong Aisha!

[MujahidAishah]

I will hunno but I got my ass kicked hoyo wants buy land and build a house in Boorama I'm like I'm not investing in a shisheeye city... Oh that didn't go down well

She hit me with the bakoorad

[EvolSyawla]

Shisheeye? lol It's such a beautiful city! So green and cool compared to Hargeisa. I'd love to build a house there. I just wish the roads btwn there and Hargeisa weren't so FKNGKJSDLJSAF CRAPPY.

[MujahidAishah]

I like Boorama it's a beautiful city but it's dead I wanted to go to Ceelshiekh iyo berbera I wanted seaside hideaway but no I'm heading west

. I have to give in I can't have my best friend not talk to me

[AgentOfChaos]

OP: Oh you poor child, just be honest and straight forward with your parents, they will understand.

[bakoorad]

I am a single Somali female making her own money. I have financial goals, I set these goals so that I can one day start a viable venture, God willing. But get this my parents are my biggest obstacle. I am forever shelling out money like i'm the World Bank, now now before you condemn me to hell and label me caasi hear me out.

I don't mind taking care of my parents or my immediate family what I can't understand is this lets " support a whole village back home" business that my parents are on. "Heblow naagtisaa baa umushaay, heblaayo iskool uniform bay u bahantahay". My mother is under the impression that i'm single and as a result I don't have better things to do with my money. I can never say no because i'll feel guilty and hate myself. I have one other friend going through the same issue, however she decided to lie about her salary and this how she manages to save money. I just feel like its hindering my progression as a young adult making her way in the world.

Anyone experiencing a similar issue ? How do you cope? I'm I being selfish for feeling this way? Talk to meee.

I've never had to send a penny back home alhamdulilah lakin if I had to I would without hesitation wallahi. You should work for your akhira and be charitable. Just yesterday, I was contemplating on the plausibility of a welfare system for the most needy back home.

[BlackVelvet]

I am a single Somali female making her own money. I have financial goals, I set these goals so that I can one day start a viable venture, God willing. But get this my parents are my biggest obstacle. I am forever shelling out money like i'm the World Bank, now now before you condemn me to hell and label me caasi hear me out.

I don't mind taking care of my parents or my immediate family what I can't understand is this lets " support a whole village back home" business that my parents are on. "Heblow naagtisaa baa umushaay, heblaayo iskool uniform bay u bahantahay". My mother is under the impression that i'm single and as a result I don't have better things to do with my money. I can never say no because i'll feel guilty and hate myself. I have one other friend going through the same issue, however she decided to lie about her salary and this how she manages to save money. I just feel like its hindering my progression as a young adult making her way in the world.

Anyone experiencing a similar issue ? How do you cope? I'm I being selfish for feeling this way? Talk to meee.

No you are not being selfish


Talk to your parents, tell them that you need to save. Maybe even agree on a set amount that you give them each month that they can give to whomever they want


Use mahmah

Gacanta kor - this mah mah is about how it is better to be the giving hand than the receiving one. Tell them you saving is important because tomorrow anything can happen, you could lose your job and you don't want to become gacanta hoos i.e. the one asking others


Invest your money so you don't have it lying around. For one it's losing value and secondly it will be spent like it or not

[FAH1223]

I'm kind of in a similar position as you. But its not about sending money to Somalia.

I didn't expect my early to mid 20s to be a time of always being broke. It sucks.....