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Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

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What Marriage would you prefer?

 
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Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Sadaam_Mariixmaan » Sat Jul 07, 2007 7:06 pm

Love Marriage- if the chick is hot

Arranged Marriage - if the chick is hot

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby paidmonk » Sat Jul 07, 2007 7:06 pm

Love

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Ashlee » Sat Jul 07, 2007 7:07 pm

arranged marriage - if hes darod
love marraige - if hes darod

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Sadaam_Mariixmaan » Sat Jul 07, 2007 7:08 pm

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby WACAYSA IS GALE » Sat Jul 07, 2007 10:28 pm

ARRANGED MARRIAGE IS OUR CULTURE AND IS EVEN BETTER WHEN THE TWO PEOPLE GET LIKE EACH OTHER.

BUT MOST PEOPLE PREFER LOVE MARRIAGE.

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby DerbiJiiF » Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:36 am

Consult www.eHarmoney.com. With a reasonable price, they will arrange you a girl.

Derbi,

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby neocon_2007 » Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:42 am

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Padishah » Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:52 am

Preferably an arranged marriage.

The whole process of dating, falling in love and getting married produces unrealistic expectations, does not prepare the couple for living together, idealises the time BEFORE marriage when the couple was free from such burdens as work and child commitments and there was 'passion', and its not really efficient.

All these factors combine to make love marriages LESS successful than arranged marriages, becuase the latter address the practicalities of marriage, while the former works on the 'love conquers all' schtick.

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby SummerRain » Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:53 am

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Padishah » Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:55 am

Ismahan, darling, which would you prefer? The short but passionate marriage, or the long term familiarity and affection that is built upon during a more practically minded marriage?

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby SummerRain » Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:16 am

Why does it have to be short and passionate, when you can make it long and passionate? Confused I mean whats wrong with marrying someone you love and is passionate and at the same time ready for marriage and its responsiblities. Life is not black and white Padishah. Very Happy

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Padishah » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:31 am

It doesn't have to be short and passionate, but statistical analysis shows that expecting a long, passionate, romantic marriages are a rarity. There is nothing wrong with being in love, getting married, and settling down and having a family. A combination of pressures makes the 'blissfully married' dream quite far from reality.

Are you a betting woman, Ismahan?

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Gedo_Boy » Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:47 am

Padishah,

You have a point, and that accurately explains why people will sometimes be dating for years and get divorced within 6 months.

it doesn't take long to fall in love, and people's judgements are altered when in love so they may overlook a lot of things they will find unbearable later.

I think it's fine to get married while IN love, but you can also fall in love after marriage as well.

I think there isn't one clearcut rule that works, but people who seem inflexible to either option seem to do worse.

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Re: Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

Postby Steeler [Crawler2] » Sun Jul 08, 2007 5:47 am

"All these factors combine to make love marriages LESS successful than arranged marriages, becuase the latter address the practicalities of marriage, while the former works on the 'love conquers all' schtick."

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Define less successful? Divorce rate is a very poor indicator of success or failure in marriage. Lots of people stay in bad marraiges, doesn't mean the marriage is a success. I would NEVER consider letting my mother select a woman for me nor would I consider a lifetime committment with a woman I did not get to know first, both in terms of personality and sexual performance. You want to go that route, because it will be more "successful" have at it.


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