Postby Gamadid. » Tue Nov 20, 2007 4:27 am
[quote="Gedo_Boy"]Gamadid,
I think the FGM acts as an inhibitor to losing your virginity not due to higher moral standards but just b/c of the pain associated w/ promiscuity and the more apparent discovery of non-virgin status. But as Advocator said, many women (like in Egypt) have themselves sown back up or their hymen reconstructed.
As for the Northern practice of going to a surgeon first, I heard in Xamar women would do that too, at least the ones who could afford to see a doctor.
I agree with the declining standards. I think when people get hung up on virginity TOO much then we lose sight of what was wrong. I strongly feel that a woman's attachment to a man is dependent on how many men she has had sex with. If there are too many relationships I think it becomes more unlikely a healthy marriage can develop.
As for the virginity for virginity's sake, I read some stories about women in Arabia who are scandalous but want to keep their virginity b/c it will be discovered upon marriage.
These women would allow the man to have anal sex with them and perhaps oral sex just to maintain their virginity. So on the wedding night this guy may be happy he's got a virgin, but is she really a virgin?
That's what MIGHT happen if you get too caught up on virginity as a status.
I'm sure there are many girls who are good-natured, God-fearing but just got caught up in 1 or 2 incidents......is it fair for such girls to be put on a lower status than a scandalous girl who says: "You can have everything but vaginal sex with me because I'm saving that for marriage and I don't want to be considered a love"?
I believe people can redeem themselves.
Besides, another point is we have Somali guys running around claiming they're so promiscuous and sleeping around with all sorts of girls, Somali and otherwise.
So if there are so many guys that aren't virgins then how can we expect the majority of women to be virgins? Who are these guys sleeping with?
I don't think all these are banging the few number of dhilos.......
So as a society if the men are promiscuous so too will be the women.[/quote]
Brilliant answer saxib. Somali boys contribute to the downfal of many somali girls. Even more sad to see after they are done with a somali girl, they pimp her to blacks. These are the drug addicted young boys and girls who dropped out of high-school. Dhiig maleh nacaladda. They buy their drugs using somali girls as trade off. Khamrada xataa aaday u cabaan, both young men and young women. Mareyakn waxa joogo waa u dhamaatay badankooda.