Assalamu a'leykum, i thought i'dd share this with you all. Hope it benefits us all Inshallah.
Al Hafidh Abu Hatim Muhammad ibn Hibban (rahimahuallah) said,
Muhammad ibnul Hussain ibn Qutaybah ibn Asqalan informed me that Ibrahim Al Hawrani, on the authority of Sahl who said that the Messenger of Allah(salalahu aleyhi wasalam) said,
There is no good in a companion who does not observe the same rights towards you as you observe towards him
Abu Hatim, may Allah be pleased with him, said,
It is compulsory for an intelligent individual who was blessed by Allah to have love for a Muslim, to stay close/cling on to him. He should accustom himself to stay in contact with him if he cuts him off, to turn towards him if he turns away, to give him if he withholds, to draw close to him if he distances himself, to the point that he is like a pillar in his life. It is from the greatest of faults for a person to be two faced in his affection.
Al Muntasir ibn Bilal al Ansari recited (this poem) to me,
How many a friend displays affection with his tongue,
but is deceitful in my absence and is not regretful.
He unwillingly amuses me so I may love him,
but his words in my absence strike me like arrows.
Abu Hatim said,
The intelligent individual is not deficient in his affection, he does not have two faces or two hearts. Rather, what he conceals is identical to what he reveals, his actions are in accordance to his speech. There is no good in two companions where deficiency grows between them, and their state increases in corruption, as Abdul Aziz ibn Sulaiman Al Abrash recited to me,
May Allaah revile one whom having affection towards is of no use,
and one whose rope/aid is feeble, when extended.
And one who is of two colors, is not consistent
in keeping ties, a betrayer of everyone trustworthy.
And one who has two hearts - meeting him,
is enjoyable, but is untrustworthy in his absence.
And one whom if his eyes were to speak,
they would cut off all paths of companionships.
Amru ibn Muhammad an Nasai recited to me,
The eye reveals what is within the soul,
of hatred or love if present.
Indeed one who harbors hatred has an eye which is apparent,
unable to conceal by it what lies within his heart.
The eye speaks even though the mouth moves not,
to the point where you would clearly see what lies within the heart.
'Ali ibn Muhammad al Basami recited to me,
A neighbor that continues to send me,
painful words that do not allow me to sleep.
His affection is distance from those close to him,
rather aversion, refuses to be consistent.
He rushes to extend the Salam when we meet,
while underneath his ribs lies a diseased heart.
Abu Hatim, may Allah be pleased with him, said,
The intelligent one does not befriend one who is two faced, or one who has two hearts. He does not reveal anymore affection than what he conceals, and he does not conceal any less love than what he reveals. He should not be, when hardships arise, any different than he were before they arose or before getting involved, because a friendship that is unlike this is not praiseworthy. A man from Khuzaah recited to Muhammad ibn Khalaf at Taymi, who recited to Muhammad ibnul Mundhir, who recited to me,
My brother is not the one who shows his love for me verbally,
but my brother is he who shows love for me during hardships.
He whose wealth is mine if I had none,
as my wealth is his if he were in need
So do not praise a friend during times of ease,
for he may forfeit his friendship during hardships.
He is only, How are you, and welcome,
but with his wealth is as evasive as a fox.
