How do people stay emotionally..

1nemansquad · Postby **1nemansquad** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:03 am

..attached to someone for so many years? those who have been together for so long (i can't seem to figure this out on my own)

Paddington Bear · Postby **Paddington Bear** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:10 am

Someone such as what? Mothers, fathers, pet hamsters, dog? What?

1nemansquad · Postby **1nemansquad** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:14 am

..husband and wife

Postby **Basra-** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:16 am

It is easy for husband and wife of many year to remain emotionally attached.They become used to each other, like the mirror in your bathroom.it becomes "there",, routine and familiar.Thats easy. The challenge is making the romantic couple life......stay... alive. :clap:

black velvet · Postby **black velvet** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:18 am

How can you be emotionally attached to someone just for a short-term? Isn't the whole point of an emotional relationship based on the fact that it's long-term?

Postby **Basra-** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:19 am

bb ... 1nemansquad..is talking about fast love...

Paddington Bear · Postby **Paddington Bear** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:22 am

Basra- wrote:It is easy for husband and wife of many year to remain emotionally attached.They become used to each other, like the mirror in your bathroom.it becomes "there",, routine and familiar.Thats easy. The challenge is making the romantic couple life......stay... alive.

I love the way you assume everyone interacts with the mirror in their bathroom, Basra. Wonder what conversations you have with yours!

black velvet · Postby **black velvet** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:26 am

Basra- wrote:bb ... 1nemansquad..is talking about fast love...

How is fast love applicable in a husband-wife scenario. If you're going to have kids together, I hope both parties intend to stick it through

Postby **Basra-** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:29 am

Paddington Bear

lol u really want to know? Well i only look at the mirror when i wake up early in the morning. I wash my face first without a glance at the mirror, then towel dry face, i smile to the mirror --and say-- Morning beautiful.....mirror mirror on the wall, who is the fairest, beautiest of them all? :clap:

Postby **Basra-** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:30 am

[quote="black velvet"][quote="Basra-"]bb ... 1nemansquad..is talking about fast love...

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How is fast love applicable in a husband-wife scenario. If you're going to have kids together, I hope both parties intend to stick it through[/quote]

bb do u listen to geroge michael? :roll:

black velvet · Postby **black velvet** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:34 am

Yes I do actually, guilty feet have got no rhythm :lol:

1nemansquad · Postby **1nemansquad** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:39 am

black velvet wrote:How can you be emotionally attached to someone just for a short-term? Isn't the whole point of an emotional relationship based on the fact that it's long-term?

..i donnot know if that is the whole poing but i just don't think its realistic for people to be emotionally attached to one another for a long period of time, the real love doesn't wear off thing only applies to blood i believe

Paddington Bear · Postby **Paddington Bear** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 10:51 am

1ne,
Not that I go for the romantic notions of love but I don’t understand why you would believe that love only applies to blood (relatives I assume)!

Is it in one's genes to love your own mother or siblings? Or is it borne out of years of familiarity, kindness and gratitude?

If the second, would that not also apply to a wife or husband?

black velvet · Postby **black velvet** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:08 pm

1nemansquad wrote:
..i donnot know if that is the whole poing but i just don't think its realistic for people to be emotionally attached to one another for a long period of time, the real love doesn't wear off thing only applies to blood i believe

Well they say relationships are like plants, you need to water them and care for them, as hippy (don't say anything) as that may sound it's actually true. How many friend have you had in the past who you were really close to emotionally but as the years wore on, you spent less and less time together and so naturally grew apart? Same thing with family, the only difference is you're together more times than not and even if you are separated (and not as emotionally involved) you understand that your social bond will never break.

So the determiner really, is time. If you spend enough time with anyone you will develop an emotional bond and that bond will be maintained so long as those two people are together. The quality of that bond will be determined by the quality of the time spent together which is how good they make each other feel. If you enjoy being around your wife or any particular person for that mater and she makes you feel good; would you want to keep that person around or would you time out? I think that's what it comes down to, at least in my head :mrgreen:

But then I guess there are some people would stick to anyone out of habit.

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