Somali Males & Virginity

[hipsterrunoff]

Horta how many of you would even ask that Q? ma ku dhacdaan ba ugu horaysa?

I have wondered this too.

I understand asking a person if they have been married and such but how does one ask if they had fallen into zinaa?

You don't do it the first hour you speak, but you should have a certain answer from her not to long, as girls open up quite easily.

Why do you keep changing the convo back to the females? My post specifically is talking about male virginity. Stop, please.

[Colonel]

Lol Beans that's a must ask question, if she got nothing to hide she shouldn't be offended.

[Beans]

I didnt say anything abt anyone getting offended and i also didnt even mention a gender. I am just wondering how someone would put into words when asking such a question.

[BankiiTuuyo]

hipsterrunoff yes they taught me to wait and they dont put it that way they say ''guurso'' , but since you somali girls are iib and even your distant relatives come to us wanting some shaxaad money ofcourse u have to be virgins nobody buys something that's already been opened! p.s u dont have to be virgins if i dont have to pay the bride price.

[SultanOrder]

I didnt say anything abt anyone getting offended and i also didnt even mention a gender. I am just wondering how someone would put into words when asking such a question.

As you guys get to know eachother, you invariably talk about past present and future. When I was younger, it was as simple as how far have you gone with a guy, and she would ask you the same thing but with a girl, sometimes they would ask you by playing it off like all guys have done it so who did you do it with. Girls are just as interested as guys from my experience.

[VeiledGarbasar]

I've learnt that these sort of topics always come around.

My mum always lectures my brothers about Zinaa and how it is a major sin. To be honest this is why I advocate early marriages. It saves a lot of people into sinning. But you equally have to make the guy responsible early on and earning from early on, so by the time his 21-22, his working and able to take care of a family (or at least him & his wife). From what I've seen a lot of guys can wait that long, even without being practicing (they must not have bad friends though). As for the practising ones, they wait as long as they get a wife.

[Beans]

I didnt say anything abt anyone getting offended and i also didnt even mention a gender. I am just wondering how someone would put into words when asking such a question.

As you guys get to know eachother, you invariably talk about past present and future. When I was younger, it was as simple as how far have you gone with a guy, and she would ask you the same thing but with a girl, sometimes they would ask you by playing it off like all guys have done it so who did you do it with. Girls are just as interested as guys from my experience.

If an individual wants to hide/not share part of the past,they wont.Esp.when hints are expected to gauge a response.Unless asked directly,many wont come forward with something they feel might put them at a disadvantage.

A simple question of "have u dated before" could give u a simple "yeah,very little" End of story.

[SultanOrder]

I didnt say anything abt anyone getting offended and i also didnt even mention a gender. I am just wondering how someone would put into words when asking such a question.

As you guys get to know eachother, you invariably talk about past present and future. When I was younger, it was as simple as how far have you gone with a guy, and she would ask you the same thing but with a girl, sometimes they would ask you by playing it off like all guys have done it so who did you do it with. Girls are just as interested as guys from my experience.

If an individual wants to hide/not share part of the past,they wont.Esp.when hints are expected to gauge a response.Unless asked directly,many wont come forward with something they feel might put them at a disadvantage.

A simple question of "have u dated before" could give u a simple "yeah,very little" End of story.

I'm speaking to you from experience, and finding out sooner or later is no hard task.

[Beans]

^^^ Because u managed to make few talk? Sheekadaas iga daa.

If one had something to hide,no amount of right talk will make then spill the beans if they didnt want to.

[Estarix]

i aint waiting

[Colonel]

^^^ Because u managed to make few talk? Sheekadaas iga daa.

If one had something to hide,no amount of right talk will make then spill the beans if they didnt want to.

You'll find out one way or another, just gotta make sure that it's not on the wedding night

[Beans]

^^^ Because u managed to make few talk? Sheekadaas iga daa.

If one had something to hide,no amount of right talk will make then spill the beans if they didnt want to.

You'll find out one way or another, just gotta make sure that it's not on the wedding night

How?

[Colonel]

^

personally I'll ask directly + heavy background research. Like others have said, I ain't paying for 2nd hand goods.

[Beans]

^^There.Everyone mentioned something,except asking directly.Unless one asks directly or are told volunterily,whatever conclusion they reach after their detective work,is just assumptions.

[SultanOrder]

^^^ Because u managed to make few talk? Sheekadaas iga daa.

If one had something to hide,no amount of right talk will make then spill the beans if they didnt want to.

Plus if she lived in your city, you will find out if she has. There is no way to hide it, and most girls opt out for honesty. And I'm not talking about those that actively engage in it, because then it is common knowledge.