Guur Ayuuto

[Tuushi]

Why oh why do people waste their hard earned people on one nights cheap uunsi iyo futo rux?

[Alphanumeric]

futo ruux

[Tuushi]

I am sure it is rux. As in watching middle aged women behaving badly by shaking it.

[Alphanumeric]

Ahh, lol. I see.

Yes, waste of hard earned money.

[InaSamaale]

We'd have to ask a lot of questions as to what the mehr is for and why it needs to be paid directly to her, as opposed to some cultures that suggest it goes to her family/father. I'm sure someone somewhere has made an attempt to argue that the purpose of the mehr is an insurance in the event of the husband's passing. But mufassireen would say that its purpose is relinquishing a woman's power in the household. Take either one and place it in today's context and you'll begin to ask questions yourself. When there are as much as and in some countries far more women than men being educated, one can't help but wonder the fairness in it all. ?

I never considered the hikmah behind Mahr. Interesting point you raised. Will do my own readings. All I know is I'm entitled to Mahr, which has to be something of monetary value. I will run wild with that idea for now. Jks.

Okay, I'm no jurist but technically speaking if the hukum is mahr must be paid, then that hukum cannot be abrogated simply because of our perception that the wisdom behind it may not be applicable. With regards to who the mahr is being paid to and what exactly it entails, you have every right to question beforehand.


Sidenote; enough wedding bashing in this thread. They're such a joyous occassion when two people decide to share their lives and you get to be part of that happy festivity.

[HooBariiska]

waaxay 15k? meeshu maa africa?

ni99a u need atleast 60k to get married and sustain it for few years

3 year rent - 30k +

aroos, furniture and meher = 30 k

[Hyperactive]

i am damn sure my dad or any of my family didnt pay even fraction of that!. man bal iska sadaqeysto dad gajeysan!

[Minneapolis Mayor]

Waxaa ladhahay Do not spend money that you don't have ( Dayn, Ayuuto etc), on something you don't like( Niiko, Futo Rux, Qaylo iyo danbi), to please people that you don't know/Like ( You don't know a third of the people that are going to attend or you don't even like them at all). Gabdhaha feel they are under valued if they don't get a wedding. Like they are giving that precious Candho which they have been taken care of for so long. That is the concept of marriage.

[salool]

Warsheekh, bara möblerna kommer att kosta 10k, har du varit på en möbelaffär på sistone? allting är så dyrt.

Fml säg walahi? det är kört markaas

spara de pengarna du får tillbaka i skatt, du kommer att behöva de i framtiden.Det är dyrt att gifta sig

[AbkoowDhiblaawe]

Salool ärligt talat det där är överdrivet, fan vilken press det är

[Hyperactive]

illen naagtu goor bey eyaduba o bahantahay just as much as man. why each bring their beds and their stuff and la isku darsado?

[salool]

Salool ärligt talat det där är överdrivet, fan vilken press det är

Well om du har tur, du kommer bara att gifta dig en gång, gör den GÅNGEN en dag hon kommer aldrig att glömma och lämna resten till Allah swt.Vem vet kanske du kommer att fira silver bröllop med henne.Man kan inte förutse allt i världen, det enda man kan göra är att be till Allah och hoppas på det bästa.

[AbkoowDhiblaawe]

sant laakin tänk om giftemålet inte funkar? , ännu ett till dyrt bröllop shiiid, jag ska nog satsa på garoob

[salool]

Jag trodde folk bara satsade på första giftermålet, om den misslyckas då är det bara att skaffa sig en katt och spela bingo varje lördag och äta glass.

Efter ett tag när man har slickat sina sår och glömt sin ex, då ska man bara handla på second hand butik.Leta efter den bästa som ser bra ut och bara nöja sig.(jag hoppas att du förstår vad jag menar med second hand butik, vill inte såra några folk härinne)

[AbkoowDhiblaawe]

looooooooooooooooooooooool sant