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When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bills

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby Machiavelli2 » Tue Oct 07, 2014 6:18 pm

How many Somali guys earn such wages that demand gruesome longer hours and still have time to visit this website multiple times each given day.

Normally, the guy pays for the wedding, furniture and the rent during the honeymoon and by the end of the honeymoon, she will be pregnant constantly to worry about make-ups, shoes, going out and clothes. They will apply for a council home and when like all young marriages strain or had snag due to financial hurdles, Xalimo will come to the realisation that she can earn better income through welfare with her children and inform Faarax that she is no longer his wife and decided to be an "independent" woman.

She becomes the cleo magazine of the neighbourhood and cyber and her age stagnates at 20 years old. She also becomes a self appointed critic of other people's weddings and will gate crush if not invited. Me Faarax drifts from city to city, state to state and continent to continent with the same result. 15 years later, the Somali community will feign absolute shock asking why do our kids turn this way.

My point is it doesn't matter who pays for it, but do you possess whatever it takes to make your marriage successful?

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby DANGIRL » Tue Oct 07, 2014 6:20 pm

The man gotta pay all the bils and rent. The wifeys money goes to savings IMO. :up:
What if the guy doesn't work? Or becomes ill etc? Thats why it is always best to share things, for example you do the electric bills, she does water bill, you do gas bill, she does TV bills and so on. Also you can both create a saving account together instead of relying on one individuals savings which isn't fair.

Trust me money/finance is the number one reason why couples marriage get in trouble, so the sooner you agree with a financial system in the family the better the marriage. :up:

If he doesn't work, he probably can’t afford to get married in the first place.

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby XimanJaale » Tue Oct 07, 2014 6:22 pm



If he doesn't work, he probably can’t afford to get married in the first place.
People can get sacked or made redundant, during the duration of their marriage. :|

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby DANGIRL » Tue Oct 07, 2014 6:25 pm



If he doesn't work, he probably can’t afford to get married in the first place.
People can get sacked or made redundant, during the duration of their marriage. :|

I hope he saved enough money that would last them for couple of months. :whew:

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby eliteSomali » Tue Oct 07, 2014 6:45 pm

You can't control her money if you don't control her mind. Xalimos, do you see this predator? Y'all need to get your mind together unless you want to become a victim of controlling faraxs. :lol
:Heh: Look at this thing. What is this mind control crap you talk about horta? Have you bee mentally enslaved before? Because it feels like you are warning girls here against shit you've suffered. :umad:


BTW: Jasmine: :comeon: We both know you'd be safe under me as oppose to X isbaaro owner.

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby SooMaal11 » Tue Oct 07, 2014 8:17 pm

I'll pay for everything. All she needs to do with her money is spend it on herself and vacations here and there. If she got me than she doesn't have any problems.
AND NO NOT A TROPHY WIFE.

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC » Tue Oct 07, 2014 8:39 pm

This is how I see it, if you working outside that means you won't be able to take care of the house, children nd even your husband, because you are away up to 10 hrs, when you come you'r already tired, so thats your excuse as to why there's no food, sex, nd the house isn't clean, so the husband has to do his part of all these things, then I dnt understand why you can't do ur part when it comes to money ? If you want ur husband to pay everything then you should become stay home
Wife/mom.

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby BlackRain » Tue Oct 07, 2014 10:53 pm

My wife doesn't do sh1t. I pay all the bills and even send money to her mom and family back home. I am such a good husband

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Postby BlackVelvet » Wed Oct 08, 2014 8:09 am

My wife doesn't do sh1t. I pay all the bills and even send money to her mom and family back home. I am such a good husband
:lol:

I'll pay for everything. All she needs to do with her money is spend it on herself and vacations here and there. If she got me than she doesn't have any problems.
AND NO NOT A TROPHY WIFE.
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Most people would say "feel safe with me"...

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby Phinks » Wed Oct 08, 2014 8:17 am

I'll take care of all the necessary bills and rent. It's my duty as her husband and provider :blessed:

She can do whatever she wants with the money she rightfully earned :up:


Shopping, vacations, exotic food etc

And I won't ask for a single penny. Even if she generates a higher income. :mrgreen:

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby BlackVelvet » Wed Oct 08, 2014 8:26 am

I'll take care of all the necessary bills and rent. It's my duty as her husband and provider :blessed:

She can do whatever she wants with the money she rightfully earned :up:


Shopping, vacations, exotic food etc

And I won't ask for a single penny. Even if she generates a higher income. :mrgreen:

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby ManD333q » Wed Oct 08, 2014 9:18 am

Jamine these men are just telling you what you want to hear :lol: Reality is you'll be lucky to find a Faarax who doesnt leech off you (aka caano-dhame).

All the girls who demand their men to be the sole breadwinner of the household; are you ready to be traditional housewives? I don't think you can have it both ways :mrgreen:

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby BlackVelvet » Wed Oct 08, 2014 10:38 am

War hooy dheh, don't rain on my parade :down: :lol:


All the girls who demand their men to be the sole breadwinner of the household; are you ready to be traditional housewives?
To be fair this is not the kind of thing you can demand. He can either afford it and it comes naturally or you marry him knowing you will be pulling the weight together.

Also walaaley sheekada waxaa waaye a breadwinner who can afford to hire shaqaalo, sheekada la soco nooh :lol:



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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby Keyblade » Wed Oct 08, 2014 10:46 am

War hooy dheh, don't rain on my parade :down: :lol:


All the girls who demand their men to be the sole breadwinner of the household; are you ready to be traditional housewives?
To be fair this is not the kind of thing you can demand. He can either afford it and it comes naturally or you marry him knowing you will be pulling the weight together.

Also walaaley sheekada waxaa waaye a breadwinner who can afford to hire shaqaalo, sheekada la soco nooh :lol:



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What if he doesn't want to hire one and insists you perform your duties™ as a wife instead? :MJ:

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Re: When ppl get married, does the guy pay for the rent & bi

Postby YummyMummy » Wed Oct 08, 2014 10:55 am

^ I agree. If he's fulfilling his duties, you fulfil your duties, none of this shaqaalo business :lol:
I mean it though. I grew up with these people... individuals lacking a moral grounding & sense of belonging.


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