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I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Tue Dec 24, 2019 12:38 am

I don't wanna hurt my mum's feeling, but she is pushing me to reconnect with a chick that flat out rejected me almost 5 yrs ago lol. She said she didn't approach them but a friend of the girl's family called her selling to her that the girl is still single and actually talked into convincing her to reconsider moi.. And so here we are am highly over it but I don't wanna upset her neither do I see this going anywhere lol.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby Seedyare » Tue Dec 24, 2019 3:05 am

Who's that 'her' you dont wish to upset ? If it is the lady and you still happen to love her,then go for her and smash the chick in a halal way .If not, convince your mom how you are done with that particular lady.Pretty simple .

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Tue Dec 24, 2019 3:52 am

Who's that 'her' you dont wish to upset ? If it is the lady and you still happen to love her,then go for her and smash the chick in a halal way .If not, convince your mom how you are done with that particular lady.Pretty simple .
:lol: I can't convince my mom, because every time she tries setting me up, it's a fail! She pins it on me, and makes it sound as though am not ready to settle, or am scared to shukaansi a chick hence why they all end up fail at it's infancy stage. :lol:

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby Nubis » Tue Dec 24, 2019 7:20 am

You should forget about it, and move on. It is not going anywhere.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Tue Dec 24, 2019 12:01 pm

You should forget about it, and move on. It is not going anywhere.
Well, I've already done that and I respected her honesty then. I just said OK I will talk to her to avoid upsetting mum who is being kawaalad by the woman who even suggested to play match maker again lol.

Apparently, since that 5 Yr period she's turned down several guys. Some due to distance and one due to tribe.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby Nubis » Tue Dec 24, 2019 2:52 pm

I hope it works out, and best of wishes.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby CigaalSHiiDaaDCFC » Sat Dec 28, 2019 5:38 pm

Who's that 'her' you dont wish to upset ? If it is the lady and you still happen to love her,then go for her and smash the chick in a halal way .If not, convince your mom how you are done with that particular lady.Pretty simple .
:lol: I can't convince my mom, because every time she tries setting me up, it's a fail! She pins it on me, and makes it sound as though am not ready to settle, or am scared to shukaansi a chick hence why they all end up fail at it's infancy stage. :lol:
:lol: .. try it again, see if she is interested this time. You never know when that clock start ticking women tend to be more openminded

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Sun Dec 29, 2019 1:16 am

Who's that 'her' you dont wish to upset ? If it is the lady and you still happen to love her,then go for her and smash the chick in a halal way .If not, convince your mom how you are done with that particular lady.Pretty simple .
:lol: I can't convince my mom, because every time she tries setting me up, it's a fail! She pins it on me, and makes it sound as though am not ready to settle, or am scared to shukaansi a chick hence why they all end up fail at it's infancy stage. :lol:
:lol: .. try it again, see if she is interested this time. You never know when that clock start ticking women tend to be more openminded
Bingo waad fahantay. She is not old but I think she is getting pressure from her family it's best she doesn't delay further marriage. It's a shame because gabar tolka waye they want their daughter for tolka. She had rejected me back then for my looks, am afraid my looks haven't changed hahaha so I don't know how it will work. Am annoyed at this islaan who talked into her to reconsider me and now I got my mum on my case saying waa duqowday naga guurso kkkkkkkkk

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby AbdiWahab252 » Sun Dec 29, 2019 9:29 pm

Farhan

Adeer I would not waste my time. Tolka shukaansi is nonsense. They tend to be the ones who give you the biggest headaches.

So take it from me and avoid any so called introductions. Go out there and do your own fishing. It is easy and fun and best part is that there is no one poking into your business.

My looks have gotten worse over the years but my pockets have grown deeper. Yes I attract women who are 10 to 20 years younger than me but it’s all good because you got to work with what you have.

So stack up your paper, date as many chicks as you can so that you boost your confidence. When it is time to settle down seek a woman who has her shit together who also wants to settle

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Mon Dec 30, 2019 2:29 am

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby salool » Tue Dec 31, 2019 3:24 am

She had rejected me back then for my looks, 

Naag kugu nacday ilaahy sidu ku abuuray rajo ma leh, ee hooyada runta oo sheeg.

May Allah bless you with a Good wife.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby Khalid Ali » Tue Dec 31, 2019 9:24 am

You should never marry a person you don't want at the end you have to live with her. Tell your mother honestly you dont want this woman and marry when you ready you don't have biological clock right your a man. If your not 40. You have still time to make baby's.
And. Kadaba carartid ciyaal

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Tue Dec 31, 2019 12:27 pm

She had rejected me back then for my looks, 

Naag kugu nacday ilaahy sidu ku abuuray rajo ma leh, ee hooyada runta oo sheeg.

May Allah bless you with a Good wife.
Taas dhiib maleh to be honest qofba dooq buu leeyahay. I was fine with it. She didn't flat out say it like that but I think her excuse was am a bit young back then.

Amiin thanks.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby Nubis » Tue Dec 31, 2019 5:22 pm

I understand.

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Re: I gotta dilemma

Postby FarhanYare » Tue Jan 14, 2020 6:35 pm

You should never marry a person you don't want at the end you have to live with her. Tell your mother honestly you dont want this woman and marry when you ready you don't have biological clock right your a man. If your not 40. You have still time to make baby's.
And. Kadaba carartid ciyaal
What makes things complicated is when you have ur mom and her friend who are dead set on speeding things like in a blink. So take it from me don't allow your parents to bring someone for you. Am at the stage where I am momentarily happy not trying to woo xaalimo altogether. I don't want marriage, atleast not this year. And being put off by the mounting pressure.

Mamada told me she will stop talking to me if i don't get with someone that rejected me a while back when I was receptive to the idea of arranged marriage lol.


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