Awww How ssshweeet!
Sir Lug's Biological clock is ticking.
Anyways..not to Digress from the topic-- i would like to play the Devils advocate here.
'their kids will see them settle in one of those rotting houses for dying seniors and will get a visitation confined to Christmas and/or Thanksgiving. What did they get in return? '
I Disagree. I think the senior residence is a very practical way of taking care of your loving aging parents.I think you are just picking up on the negative stereotypical homes where in the news they talk of rotten residences & mistreatment! Seriously-- i would love my kids to send me in a good expensive retirement home.There is a difference.
The best nurses--comfortable living, healthy activities to do. I agree--there is nothing better than your children nursing you in their homes,But that is very rare.There is no guarentee of this anyway.Most of our Somali brethrem-- have been abandoned in distant relatives homes-- completely mistreated & left to die in some small room, constantly partronized.I think residence homes are very practical--you are sorrounded by your fellow old seniors co-habitators whom u will feel comfortable rather than a house of full of partronizing Somali relatives--who backbite you in the next room about how Ajuuze you have turned into or that u have lost it! Not to mention the enormous neglect that goes on in Somali houses! No i rather have a comfortable nursing home where professional take care of me--who have more Naxriis than the average Somali relative! I would not mind the Eiid & Ramadhan visits too--for just much as my children find it troublesome to visit--do i find their 'visiting' inconvenient & troublesome!
And Mister DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE --daughters with feeble statement u made up there---
'whereas girls are the property of whoever weds them. '
Did u know 90% of children taking care of their aged parents are daughters??? A Somali grown up Son is incapable of washing the Xaar of his own child let alone his alzheimer ajuuse mother or father. NEVER-I say!!!
Much worst--his own wife will not do that, she will do it for her mother, your mother in law!
--(Given that the 'In-laws' bickering syndrome is well known amongst Humanity in general)! Wake up waryaa! if u are looking to have kids--think again! A daughter brings more love & bliss than a son.She is mother nature! The days where boys were valuable stock market value are long gone---we dont need them to go the jungle in the night & hunt food for us. No thank you---a simple Pizze ring will do! !
The irony of all this is--the son is usually the 'property' of the woman who marrying him. Especially in somali community!
