Being a Madhibaan among Somalis must sukk big time. The average non-Madhibaan Farah may not know how severe this group of ppl are scarred but my recent encounter with one Halimo Madhibaan proved a lot and caused me a lot of grief. I was remorseful, feeling guilty for reasons unknown to me. I know I have no blame in this scenario but to the Madhibaan, I am no different than their next door so-called nasab who has been tormenting them ions gone.
I met this beautiful ..... actually stunning beautiful is the right word ----- Somali lady...... the color of her skin was actually unique to some Somali women ..... dark but seems to be glowing from the inside, kind of radiant, well built, the most beautiful smile ever caressed a woman's lips, finely set teeth, full luscious lips, high cheek bones gurding an independent nose, but the most I admired about her was the lady-like walk. You know that unique Somali women walk, not rushing but not lazy like, but confident and the hips doing a thing of their own, plus the damn "laafyo" swaying that arm as if the street belongs to her and passersby are her subjects, Shidh. She got it all.
However, our intentions were different, or so I thought, I was pursuing a relationship and she a friendship, when I finally confronted and cornered her, with teary eyes, she said.............. "oh Sir-Luggoyo, as much as I would love to entertain that idea with you, it will all come back to the fact that I am Madhiban and you are not" she continued... "you will be pressured (by your kinfolk) to disregard whatever relationship we have nurtured and you will eventually succumb to that pressure, and even if you disregard it, you will be an outcast and I have no place for an outcast, I want my children to have relations with your extended family and that ain't gonna happen, so I am afarid, we have to end it"
Show her that you are serious....Or who knows may be she figured out that you play around with your co-workers... Who knows what she knows... 
