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Istar

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How Come they want to marry a VIRGIN???? When they'r fooling around?? Why isn't their virginity never an issue??? There was a survey i've read in a magazine once, men were asked if they'r expecting their wives to be virgins, and they all answered NO and when they were asked if they'd love to've married to a virgin they all said YES.
Why is it men call the women they sleep with a B*tch?? if she's a bitch, you are bitcher LOLOL
Your hands are as dirty as hers. Why mess a poor girl up and walk away?? why steal her mind/body/soul and dumb her?? Men oh Men, so hard to keep up with'em and can't live without one.

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Nasir

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ISTAR;
My dear sister i would love to be married with a virgin it`s something i always wanted and still looking forward to it the reasons why i choosen that way is not that i got something against the non virgin sisters out there, it`s that i want my future wife to be starving for sex,the way sex feels,all the nice stuff in it,totally lacking all
that experience,then i can do all the training procedures step by step,...... for the non virgins good luck i think there are alot of men who prefer them than the virgins.....

Love and respect.

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Myra

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Another topic about virginity!!! Don' you people ever get tried of discussing female gentalia?
This topic has been discussed over and over.
What people who are concerned about virginity need to work on is their self esteem and confidence. And girls if this issue concerns you sooooooooooooo much, then keep your legs together in the first place.

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Experienced

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The answer to your question "Why do men want to marry a VIRGIN?" is simple. Most men are insecure about their sexual prowess, therefore fear that other men are always better in performing sex than they are. My advice to you is run from any man who is looking for a vergin girl, most probably he is lousy in bed because of his limp and/or small dick, and premature ejaculation. A vergin girl has no clue of the good lovers out there, so the sexually challenged man feels comfortable with her.

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gabar

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istar
gabadha waa in ay ka adkaataa labadeeda lugood dhexdeeda.
Hadeysan ka adkaan dhe is a "B" word.
Always gabdha markey virigin tahay oo ninkana yahay which is impossible these days labada qafood aad ayay aamin isugu yihiin laakiin hadey wax soo qasteen labadooda

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Aboto Xawo

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To experienced;
good point!
Enough said!

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Umar

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I would marry a non-virgin girl knowingly on only two conditions:

1- If she has been married before and she divorced or widowed, I would marry her.

2- If she does not tell me that she has been sexually active and that she is not virgin, I would marry her.

I wouldn't ask a lady whom I'm intending to marry if she is a virgin or not

What she did before is her business and what I did before is my business.

A hole, to me, is a hole. A lady who has never been married before should not tell me
who went into/entered her hole and how many men she entertained if she wants me
to marry her as I would not tell her where my thing wondered all these years of being
an available single man in this world full of temptations of other single and available women.

My policy is that: Let's get medical test and move on and follow this line: DO NOT ASK; NOT TELL.

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Anonymous

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Good point
Omar

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Anonymous

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OK HOW CAN YOU TELL IF A MAN IS A VIRGIN OR NOT? YES WOMAN IS SIMPLE TO KNOW.BUT WHAT ABOUT MAN?

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Anonymous

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No one is able to tell if a man is a vergin, unless he tells you so and of course you trust. Don't you know that is why men have the upper hand? they can tell if a woman is a vergin while women can not tell when a man is vergin!

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Muridi Haaji Ajuuke

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Hey Omar I agree with you though "don't ask don't tell" seems to be the pentagon rule.........get the medical straight.....past is past let us just roll from here........good one bro.

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MAKI

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BROTHERS
WAXAAN AHAY WIIL SOOMAALI AH WAXAANA JECLAHAY
GABAR WAANA GUURSAN RABAA LAAKIIN MA AHA VIRGIN OO WAA FURAN TAHAY WALINA MA GUURSAN LAKIIN HADA KADIB WAXAY RABTAA INAY KA TOOOWBO KEENTO ANIGANA WAXAAN AHAAY NIN FARA KA CAYAAR BADNAA WAXAAN BILAABAY INAAN KA TOOWBO KEENO HADABA GABADHAAS
INAAN DHAHO TAG WARYAA GABAR MA TIHIDE MIYAA ,,,,,,,,,,,,MISE INAAN GUURSADAA

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Nimco

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Hi Maki


aniga waxay ila tahay gabadhaas kugu tidhi waxaan ahay sidaan ee walaaalo macaanoow waan kugu jecelahay ee ma igu rabtaa aniga waxaay il tahay in ayasan ahay gabadha xun qofka bani'aadamka ahan mar qalada uu ka dhacaa marka aniga nimco ahaan waxaan ku oranlahaa iska guurso waayo adiguba markii hore sideeda oo kale ayaad ahady oo walaashaa ha ku caydhin danta aya kuu sheegatay!!!

cuz she didn't lied to you the first place and always respect the way the person is lol@@@@


W/salaaaaamay ya'aa

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Anonymous

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Maki it all depends on how you feel about her! It is your life, you decide. Surely you will not follow what the forums members will tell you to do?

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Buubshe

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Aniga sharmuuto ma guursadeen ilaah baa qaadir ah, gabar lasoo farteeyay xaan ku falaa.
Aniga wax waan soo qastay oo wuxuu ahaa wax meel cidla iska yaal, horaa loo yiri " Doqon baa ka taga haduu Laan meel dayacan yaal"

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CIISE

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Prophet Mohammad told the young men to marry virgins, and to marry the girl
that is religious and prosper. The hadith
says a father owes his son 3 things: A mother with good character and religion, a
good Muslim name and to teach him the Quran.



A husband t be deserves to know what he is getting himself into. I heard of brothers
who married women with questionable past, but these brothers knew what they
were getting into so they had the choice to say No.



It is up to you if you decide to have forgive or forget when you find out your wife's past and if you
find sincerity and repentance in her. Allah knows best. However, if she was a Muslim when she chose to have boyfriends, so she knew the
consequences of her actions. Just because there is forgiveness does not mean a
person does not suffer the consequences of sin. (eg. AIDS, Sterility, STDs, and divorce). A girl most likely will suffer the consequences of her past sins. Some people's sins
catch up with them here and some get theirs in the hellfire.

If some husbands stay a marriage after finding out that their newely wives were not virgin, it will damage their psychologically, and
spiritually. (Allah knows best) It will also affect any future relationship they may
have. they may meet that nice girl and mistreat her because they will not be able to
trust women anymore.

He will not be able to forget that this girl betrayed him in such a Sacret matter. If
she was deceitful in this important matter, what else has she lied about. She lie
and decieved her parents while she was under their care(house), she lie and deceive her husband for not telling her past. Guys, after all, this is to be the mother
of your children so good character is important.

If a girl was sticking to the sunnah then non of her virginity would she lost, she would have never ventured into the danger zone in the first place and
incur any suspicion on her reputation. If a girl
stick to the Sunnah, she cannot go wrong.


A husband has every right to feel betrayed, confused, psychologically scared,
bewildered and defiled if he does not find out or the girl does not tell her past, especaily if he obeyed Allah(swt) and kept himself pure for marriage.
That is hard now adays
with all the temptations out there for a young man. Obviously a girl does not care
about marriage, about her families reputation, or feared Allah if she fooled around and expects to be accepted. And, No, it is not
Right for a girl to destroy her future husband by passing herself off as a Virgin and religious, when
she knew full well that was far from the truth. She deserves what she gets
and it is her punishment for commiting Sin if the husband divorces her once he finds out that she is not a virgin and the quicker the husband grants her a divorce the better off he will be. If he does
not this thing will eat at him like a cancer. He will not be able to live with himself.
He will not be able to be truly happy with her or put it out of his mind. After all he
is a young man with his first marriage, he cannot deal with this. If he was an
older man who had been married before then perhaps.



A girl who is not virgin should find and marry someone like herself. And a young man should be more
careful and investigate more. Dont mistake beauty to mean innocense or virteous.


There are 3 reasons to marry a woman,, for her wealth, her beauty or her
religion. Marry the one who is religious and prosper.(Hadith)

The pure for the pure, the fornicator for the fornicator, the adulterer for the
adulterer. (Quran & Hadith)

She will destroy herself with her own doings, following the Kufr ways and she will
destroy a brother who wants to practice his deen correctly.

A girl should tell her intended husband and give him the chance to choose for himself.





"Let no Man guilty of Adultery or Fornication Marry any but a Woman Similarly
Guilty, or an Unbeliever, Nor let any, but such a Man or an Unbeliever marry such
a Woman; To the Believer such a thing is FORBIDDEN.

Woman impure are for Men impure, and men impure are for women impure, And
women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity.
These are not affected by what people say. For them there is forgiveness and a
provisin honorable.(Surah 24, Ayat 2, 3 and 26.

The Quran also says "We have sent down to thee the Book in Truth, that thou
mightest Judge Between men, as guided by Allah; so be not (used) as an
advocate by those who betray their trust.

According to the Quran, If the guy had kept himself from prematerial relations and
the girl had committed fornication then the marriage between them was
Forbidden.


This is a Major issue in Islam and amongst Muslims in marriage. The prophet
Mohammad told the young men to marry virgins. He also said the best of the
goods of this world is a pious woman. The hadiths says a woman is married for 4
reasons i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion, so marry
the one who is religious and prosper.

Surah 5:100 Say "not equal are things
that are bad and things that are good, even though the abundance of bad May
dazzle thee; so fear Allah O ye that understand, that ye may prosper.

There is
nothing wrong with striving for perfection and purity, That should be the goal of
all Muslims. The Quran spoke of the Soul and He who succeeds by purifying it.

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SIGAALE

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ASSALAMU CALAYKUM MR. CIISE
THANK YOU VERY MUCH,IT WAS REALLY HELPFULL,AND
I WAS CONFUSED MANY THING IN MY PREVIOUS MARRIAGE,
BUT NOW IS VERY CLEAR TO ME,MAY ALLAH GIVE YOU
JANNATU FARDOOS.JAZAKALLAH KHAYRAN.

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xxl

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The simple answer is
the man want 2 b the first man in her live
and the woman want 2 b tha last woman is his live
see it is as simple as that get it
plz ppl grow up and see the live the way it is
what goes around ...........................
peace & love

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TROUBLEGIRL

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TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL IS THE QUESTION????????????


MEN AND THEIR EGO'S....

It's all about I AM THE FIRST.....in everything they do.Very competitive......If you look at it from a psychological point of view....MEN R IN IT TO WIN IT!....
On the other hand...if you love someone.....and intend to marry them they deserve to know the truth NO MATTER what the reaction is. If you are somalian Non Virgin GIRL U better tell your partner NOW.....Coz believe it or not he will find out ...
And HA NOQON TII TODOBADA LAGU SOO FURAY...Nobody will buy the COW if you giving away the MILK for free on a regular basis.

If U R a somalian Man who has been around the block a couple of times....B honest with your Xajiyah coz HONESTY is always the best policy.

The bottom line is it is XARAM...to indulge in Sexual behaviours...before you say I DO.....I bet it is verrrrryyyyyyy TEMPTING......BUT ABSTINENCE IS THE WAY TO GO......U get to do plenty of JIGGY-JIGGY AFTER U GET MARRIED...LOL

Good on ya for all us self controlling VIRGINS
And for those of us who have given away the milk for free..........PRAY FOR ALLAH'S 4GIVENESS


PEACE
TROUBLEGIRL

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Anonymous

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ITS ALSO TRADITION THAT A MAN SHOULD MARRY A VIRGIN GIRL. IF U ARE A GUY WHO HAVE BEEN SAVING HIMSELF FOR MARRIEGAE AND YOU MEET A GIRL , YOU WILL EXPECT HER TO BE A VIRGIN. IF HE MARRIES A NON VIRGIN GIRL , HE WILL WONDER HOW MANY GUYS HAS SHE SLEEP WITH ? THAT SORT OF QUESTIONS.

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XXL

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TROUBLEGIRL u r a joker and u make a good point
but the problom is am a guy how have his needs i know it is xarran but in the other hand is good for me to have a saxual experince befor marrige i don't wanna be a fool how does't know how to satisfy his women or jigy jigy as u say lol
lekamo sis
stay black

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TROUBLEGIRL

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TO XXL....LOL

I bet you can control yourself mate.....try it......
U look like you have a good head on your shoulders......JUST SAY NO...LOL...But then again I forgot MEN NEVER SAY....It is all YES!YES!YES....I just wish guys would agree to other things more often too not just SEX.......For instance./....Take me shopping honey...YES......Make me a cuppa coffee....YES... That sorta thing man.....lol...nuff of TROUBLE for one FORUM...I AM OUTTIE

PEACE....

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Abdi

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Heey guys horta mid waan wada ognahay sex b4 maraige inuu xaaraan yahay. Lakiin dhalinyaradiina intaad wax qastaan hadana dhahaaya naag virgin ah ayaan rabaaa ma joke baad wadii horta idinka ma tihiin. Ani ahaan ma u arko anay diference ii sameenayso haday virgin tahay iyo hadii kale as long aan is fahmeeno waxii horey u dhacay inta laga tago qofkaad la kulantiin maalintaas waxii ka bilaabmo laga qaado meesha waxiii hore qofkasta pastigiisa halaga haro

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xxl

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TROUBLEGIRL
why is it always us have to take u out and pay for every thing live is sharing (innit)!!!
xxl

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ayan

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thats what you'll have to do okay besides whats wrong with takeing out a girl not all the time but the girl she have to take you out sometimes,I do that only because he is a good man and i llove not beacuse he is broke just because.just to show he that he is special, the way he makes me feel to xxl if a women doesn't take you out you probably u got no game.


just playing

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