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What do our somalian sisters want?????????

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Mohamed

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I have a question, are all our Somalian sisters complain freaks, Or are we all Somalian brothers as bad as they are saying we are? It looks like our sisters are not happy with us no matter what. If it is not one thing it is another, they donít like the way we dress, they donít like the way we talk to them, they donít think we are romantic enough. I for one have not yet seen one Somalian sister who is happy with what she has got, and believe me I have seen a lot. And the sad thing is there are enough men out there who would do anything for their woman. Can any of u sisters out there enlighten us and tell us what u really want?

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diehard

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My brother mohamed i think the forums is already overflooded with such topics , somali women are this , somali women are that, i am tired of seeing this endless tobics on genders ,one group attacking the other, i dont know what is wrong with the men its a somali tradition that we dont argue with our female counterpart as the saying goes , "ragna waa shah dummarna waa sheeko" so leave this kind of cheap talks lets move foward, we have alot of other important things to do than this kind of attacks!
wishing every one ~Ramadan karim~

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Anonymz

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Salaams Mohamed,
I think both men and women basically want the same think:
My 'wish' list in random order would include:
- Intelligent
- Honest
- Responsible
- Ambitious
- Educated
- Sense of humour
- Sauve and sophisticated
- Teetotaler
- Patient
Mohamed, girls are socialized to look up to men, so sometimes its difficult to make a connection with a nice guy if one can not look up to him.(i.e be able to respect and admire him)
The issue about clothes etc is frivolous and should not be used as a measure of a person's character.

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mohamed

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To: diehard.

My brother/sister, i know the forums is over following with this kind of topics and u r right there are more Important things we could be talking about, however those important topics are also overflowed here too. I think this forums is designed for all over us to express what we think is important in that instant, and my bro/sis u seem to misunderstood me some what, I am not here to attack any one, I am just posting something that I found lots of ppl talking about. These topics are entertaining as well as informative. We are here to get some ideas about each other, and I donít believe we could gain anything by attacking one another or invoking a gender war in here.

To: Anonymz

I think you hit it on the head when u say both men and women r looking for same thingÖ.but most girls seem to think or measure mans personality by what he wear, what he earns, and what about the romantic department? are we really that bad? I understand there are intelligent, intellectual Somalian girls out there, who know what they want in their men and most of them have a shopping list, which, we think can be satisfied easily but the problem here is that when they find a guy who can satisfy that list they donít recognise until is it too late.

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Diehard

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2Anonymz
you have said Men and Women want the same thing I strongly disagree with your above statement. here is why..
Man is Man and Woman is Women ,one is from mars and the other from Venus clear and far distinction.Men do not think about intelegient , honest,educated and those other blah , blah. What men want is SEX period.Naturally Men will prefer to have a young women not because of what is under her skull but because of sexual assets
looks> beutiful,young pure(virgin) while women on the other hand women look for security tender love caring etc

while your point may be true somehow that women tend to look for intelligent,honest,ambitiuos educated, etc in actual fact you'll looking for someone who can provide some security(ability to earn alot of money) an old rich man or a young man with good career who is able to provide you with House ,car,bank account, and your shopping needs here's were the dirac and dahab comes,its known fact that women like shopping not only to our somali sistas but women in general. I dont know the reason but its seems that it occupy largest portion of their brain!

2mohamed
i accept it ! I am here to express my individual oppinion and that is what I did above and i dont expect everyone to agree with me .everyone is entitle to his or her oppinion . let respect it!
thanks all
DH

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Anonymous

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diehard

Thank you brother for your honesty.

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X

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Diehard-
You must be referring to a tiny portion of the female populous. There are many sisters that can provide for themselves and then some. They find shopping not very satisfying . They are interested in finding the perfect mate not because of security reasons but to love, respect, child bearing etc. So brother please don't generalize


X

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Yaska

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Salaam 'aleykum,

Diehard-,
I disagree with you Totally, about what men looking for.. Sex!!!! you must be kiding ! let me clear my self here, Are you talking about One night stand? or long term Marriage/Zawaj?

In my viewpoint both genders expect similar qualities from their counterpart, if they both sealing on same boat heading known target.

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Alex

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Why donít we take a survey here and ask what the woman wants and what the man wants, and let us see what we can come up with.

How many women and men, who had money, look etc etc got divorced. I think communication should be the most important thing for both men and women.

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X

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Alex-
I could tell you what women want in a man (what they really, really want), but It's Ramadan. Perhaps you can hold off your survey until then.

later my friend-
X

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Alex

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X there is a lope hole in the laws of ramadan. People can answer the survey at night after the AFUR, or if you are going to TARAWIIX then you can answer after it.

What do you think of that lope hole X?

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Aboto Xawo

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Ok! Listen up.....here is what I need in a man;
1. A man who wakes up in the morning and who goes to sleep at night- No internet junkies need apply.
2. A man who knows how to put on some clothes that match- no clashing brothers, please!
3. A man who can pay his bills and not hit me up for coffee! Hey! I am tired!
4. A man who showers occasionally..to avoid being kicked out of restaurants. I can even tolerate the stench for a while, but indoor eating establishments...that is something else all together!

and last but definitely not least;
5. A man who has NO sisters, cousins, brothers, extended family....so that he can do number 3!
It adds us....50 here, 100 there and so on.
See what men have reduced us to! Soon I will be asking for only two qualities;
1. that he is a male
2. that he is breathing!
Ah......the dating game! What a nightmare.

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Mr Cool

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lol@Aboto Xawo

I see your standards are going lower every single month... what did they do to you girl. Those people have no mercy!

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Mohamed

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Salaam to u all..

2dh..
Very interesting points,and some ppl may even agree with you, but as far as i am concerned it is far from the truth, i am not going to bore u with the details why stand where i am.

2Aboto Xawo..

lol...that was one depresing statement, i am sure somalian brothers are not as bad as you are making out.

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Anonymz

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X, what!!!!!
Aboto Xawo, lol@@@@@@@@@@@


favourite cousin;)

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Alex

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Aboto xawo you are very reasonable women but there is one small problem. Itís about your number 5. Most men will say itís the other way around. In other words itís her family that is extended from here to TIMBAKTOO.

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Mahad

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Diehard - You said "guys need sex, Period" I am a guy and disagree with youu 100%, therefore, you cannot talk for all he guys.

What if you marry a beautiful lady with no education. Remember you married her for sex. After three years of wild sex and one child, you get hit my a truck and die. On the other hand I die beside you, but my wife is a Somali lady who is called Kusey, and vertically challenged. Unlike your wife, she has masters degree in philosophy and her best friends are all well educated people from child psychologists to bankers. Do you think our children will be raised the same? Your child will suffer in school, social life and will reach adulthood confused while my wife and anyone who comes to her home will help mine develop his brain.

lol@abooto. sis, I cannot apply for the above position coz I am an Internet junkie. I live, work and date on the net. I am logged to the net unless I am asleep or in between office and home. My ideal woman would be:
1- breathing
2- Female
3- Real internet chunky

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Mohamed

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lol..Internet chunkies....u got to luv 'em, there is an internet chunky in all of us otherwise we wouldn't be here.

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WADANI

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To all my bro's and sisters:

dreaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamm

ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

my god are we still dreaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaming.
pls sisters and bro's come in to terms with reality, and come out of this world of full of "myths".
the most reasent statistics showed, that out of every somali men there are five women. I mean today in our society, men are in the minority of one, compared to women. if you are honestly truly serious about marriage.i beleive a rational being would agree that there are proper ways of dealing with this issue. and proper ways of finding a decent husband or for that matter wife.
I hope you find this reasonably fair, and encouraging.


sidaa iyo is akhris dambe:

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Mullah

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Aboto Xawo:

LOL you go girl!!!!!!!!!

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NIN AJNABI AH

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THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT AND THAT IS PROBLEM

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MissX

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TO ABOTO XAWO,

GRL..UR #5 STATEMENT IS SOO TRUE...100% AGREED SISTAH!!! BUT GRL, WHAT'Z UP WITH THE LOWER XPECTATION HUH?

TO MOHAMMED,

BRO, FIRST OF ALL DONT ASK WOMEN WHAT THEY WANT, CUZ IF THEY TELL YA......U GONNA B RUNNING THE OTHER DIRECTION! OK, HERE IS THE DIFFERENCE, WOMEN 18-23 ARE NOT INTERSTED IN MARRIAGE, THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT HOW MUCH $$$ HE GOT, THE TYPE OF CAR HE DRIVES, WHAT HE WEARZ, ETC...WOMEN 23-33, THEY GO TO THE REAL DATING SCENE...THEY LOOK FOR A REASONABLE MAN W/ PERSONALITY, ONE THAT CARES ABOUT FAMILY AND VALUES, WHO GOT HIMSELF A JOB, ETC...IF THEY DONT FIND SUCH MEN....(WOMEN 33-39)..THEY GET RESTLESS...N' DESPERATE N' WILL MARRY ANY MAN THAT COMES TO HER DOOR! OK, SO WHEN U ASK WOMEN WHAT THEY WANT..U HAVE TO KNOW..WHAT AGE GROUP U ARE TALKIN TO...CUZ TRUST ME BROTHA..IT MAKES ALOTA DIFFERENCE!!!

~BE PEACE EVERYONE~

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Miskee

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Miss_X you failed your age group thing.
33 & over are not desperate. I know many successful professional women in this category.
And they reason they choose to be single is because they know what they want. Contrary to your assumption that they are desparate, this group strongly beleives in "waa bahaantahay baaqti looma cuuno" The only danger with this age group is that they may opt out and choose a foreigner.

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over33sis

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Miskee:

Sis are you sure u r not 1 of those not so desperate(33 and up).......as much as i like to blieve your statement they chose to be single
Can't sis.

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Miskee

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Over33 sis, you missed the gist of my post.
The issue is do you consider yourself desperate?. I strongly reject the assumption people have that if a woman doesn't marry by a certain age, then she becomes desperate.
I am over 33, and as Allah is my witness in this day of ramadan I am not desperate, never was, never will be. Why? becuase I have faith that i will take from this world what has been pre-ordained for me. Nothing less, nothing more.
I am at peace with my lot. Alxamdulillahi for my iimaan.
It is women who beleive 'calaf cagtaadu ku jiraa' who became desparate.

Wasalaaam
peace-out!!

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Mohamed

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2MissX..

You may be right, i see u already touched some Nerves with the age thing... i really didn't want to Categorise and like Miskee says there are those who r over 33 and consider themselves to be *HAPPY* and whatever it worth i wish them all the luck in the world. Unfortunately i normaly deal with your first age group. may be i should look into your last age group...lol...but seriously i am lost when it comes to understanding what gals really want, i know so many guys who all have the look, the job, the car, personality, and even the house but that is still not enough....i am confused......

peace

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ina-ceel-kabo-lagale

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They want everything and nathing!!!!!!!!!!!

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MissX

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Miskee,

sistah, no offence! but i know some women in that age group too, they say to them selves they know what they want...but their expectations of men are too high..and when they realise that, they dont waste time, any decent men will do...cuz their biological time clock is tick tick tickin na'mean! and also they dont wanna be lonely all their lives..thats why i think age does make a difference

to Mohammad,

brotha, some of what ina-ceel-kabo-lagale said makes some sense....some of us women want everything...but in reality, we cant have everythgn that we want so we take the next best thing..lol..and brotha, the one mistake ur doing is ur generalizing all of us women, we all want different thingz

thats my 2cents 4 2day
~be peace~

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aboto xawo

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tick...tick...tick...tick......

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Alex

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Aboto xawo I think I will qualify for this position when you are looking for

1. that he is a male
2. that he is breathing!


That is it finally I got something. Iím afraid I might loose you due to a woman named Cynical. If that happens, then I will go to one of those male oriented stores and buy a female dolls that I can put air at night.
Iím sure Cynical will not be able to interfere with this. I hope that this doesnít happen to me.

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MissX

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Alex,

are u for-ever chasing the women in this forums???

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Mohamed

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Alex:

lol@alex ... i do hope it doesn't happen to u either bro... don't give up hope...You'll be fiiiine.

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Alex

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MissX Iím not chasing the women in this forums. Before I have put all my eggs in a girl named X. NAAGO AYAA IGU DIRAY QOFTII. Now Iím doing like they do in Wall Street. Iím not putting all my eggs into one basket. In other words Iím spreading my investment.

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Waddani

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To: Alex,
slmu alykum bro, ka bacdi... haddii ay tu ku lug goysay si kastaba ha ku dhacdee ma aha inaad kaga aarsato kuwo kale. Naf naf kale dembigeeda ma qaado. Tan kale miyaadan maqlin maahmaada soomaalida ah ee oraneysa: "Gabari kunna wey shirisaa kowna wey kala dhex baxdaa" Waxaan aaminsahay iney taasi kugu rumowday. Looking for a real partner in life is more than putting eggs into a basket. Daacad u noqo jaceylka, tii kugu gabood fashana rabigeey u wakiilo.. I hope inaad aqrisan karto qeybta soomaaliga. Sllmu alykum..

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Waiting

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Alex Where is the survey brother? I am waiting to hear yours so that i could see that i qualify

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Alex

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Wadani waxaad tiri gabari kun bey shirisaa midna wey kala baxdaa. Wallal aniga sida kale ayaan u qaatay ď nin kun naagood ayuu isku wadaa midna wuu kala dhexbaxaaĒ. Marka dhibaatadaas ayaa I haysata walal. Maxaa talo ah.

To waiting The survey was hit by the Y2K bug, the year of birth of the survey went back to 1900, that caused people to be very old and on Viagra, it messed up the whole data base and of course I did not backup it up. I will have to redo the survey and add more features.

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kenya

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To diehard
thanks for supporting our ladies, cause i highly agree with you all we think about is sex,when our bautiful ladies are thinking of love, respect and inc,we(guys) have to admit our ladies are better then we are

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Anonymous

Monday, October 30, 2000 - 02:38 am
you have been all greated sisters and brothers!
first of all i do want to clear up one thing wich
there is no bad somali men as well as women.we all are individuals,and we all have a different personalities,wich we really ought to be happy about.we shouldnt be genaralizing people ,if you see a somali man who is bad you shouldnt forget all the other somali men that are really good and respectifull same thing go for the men.i am a somali lady who is really happy about what she have or should i say who she has.i have been seeing my boyfriend for year and half and he is all i want .i love him a lot because of who he is how he think and most of all how he treat me and i always try my bes to do the same thing for him.
so mohamed dont give up hope you seem to be nice person surly you will find some one who is right for you .whish all the best.and have a lot of ajars in coming ramadan.

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Naya is wassss!

Sunday, December 10, 2000 - 03:50 pm
Babycham they call me,

I am the best from the west.
I could see the girl of my dreamz.

Ha! ha! ha! ha!
•••• that.
The only thing that's important is to pray (prier)
for your god the only (????)
and to love your mom, the one that love you sens
your birth.

Love you all !?

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