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I Just Want to Know If My Friends Are Wrong And If I Should Stand My Ground???????

SomaliNet Forum (Archive): Somali Women's Forum: Archive (Before Feb 2000): I Just Want to Know If My Friends Are Wrong And If I Should Stand My Ground???????
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Ufiirsato

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I'm a senior in high school.About sex months ago,I got envolved with a Somali man who is older than me.Accuratly,while we dating each other,he wanted to have sex with me.I was not ready for premartial sex at all,but he pursued the issue after I ask him not.

Unfortunatly,we broke up.After the brakup,he talked about me behind my back and started nasty rumors.I told him I did not want to be his friend any more.

Many of my friends r still friends with him,and make me feel guilty for ending the friendship.I don't see why I should subject myself to further hurt and embarresment just so he feels better abut himself.

I Just Want to Know If My Friends are Wrong And If I should Stand My Ground????????????????????????

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Rahma

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Dear Ufiirsato,

My sister you are right and your friends are wrong. Don't let them presuade you some thing you know is wrong. My sister you don't need such friends, friends are the ones who stand by us in good times and bad times. Regardless of the stuation tell your friends how you feel and if they still insist that you should get back to him, then leave them all. Truellly I admire you and I wish the best in life. Your a senior and you already have Sats and school load, so you don't need another obsticle on your way. My sister next year by this time you will be freshman in a college, and you will meet many friends inshaalah.

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Axoow (Axoow)

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TO:Ufiirsato

Hi, sis I'm sending u my gratitude...u well desrved.
sis,ur friends r wrong...wrong....wrong..for ever wrong...and u should stand ur ground with tight.

see who easy that was?For me?
For u it might be a lonely year.Or a lonely week...at some point,even stupidity and cruelty get old,so these "friends" will eventually find someone else to annoy.To make it easier in the meantime, I have compiled a list of things u already know but may be relieved to hear again:

1.The friends who stuck with u r true friends.Keep them

2. the strength it took for u to reject this guy is more precious than all the moron on his combined.(Then again,all the morons on his side aren't worth the 57 cents u spend on a gum to justify ducking into the closest 7-eleven or store to avoid running into them on the street.So lets call ur srength MUCH...MUCH...MUCH more precious).

3. The fact that his friends r bugging u means u really get to him, which means he might not try this crap on feature Somalis girls who will meet, which means u might have done a society(Ufiirsato read my lips sis)a valuable service.

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Ufiirsato

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TO:Axoow
Thanks bro I use to hear ur name but I never thought u will give me this kind of reaction;I also except ur gratitude that was nice.

TO:Rahma
Sis u r of the kind and I glad to see ur feed back it was helpfull...thanks again.

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abdul

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RAHMA iam strongle agree with you abaayo and that's what iam about to say rahma i love to gett advice like to see sister who gott that kind of ultimate rahma thanks for you'r comen peace sis

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bellboy

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Dear Ufiirsato.

First of all you have been greeted!.

I sincerly do understand your problem and i think you should stick and pull yourself together...I know how embarrasing that rumours must have been to you but sister,,just let it go in one ear and out the other one.

All he(The man you were talking about)tries to get is to just have a sex with you and then dump you out but don't let him do that and walk away that easily.

I wouldn't let my tongue say that all men are a like and are similar but in some measure men have this conquest thing and when they get what they want from women which is absolutly the common thing"sex"..then it is "see ya later".

If he tells you"he loves you so much and that he is unable to put into words how much you mean to him"..never win your trust on him..he is a real player,he wants to screw your life up,he wants to monipulate you and bring you around his point of view which are obviously wrong.

If my memory serves me right you have said he is even older then me aight? then that tells you he ain't the right one for you.

Your Friends.

I wouldn't say that i do have many friends whom i do cherish dearly but i have a handful of dear friends who are very conspicious and important to me.

A true friend to me,is aperson you can laugh with,cry with,talk to and simply have a good time with.Understanding is also significant.Imust be able to understand my friend's feeling and so should he/she.I Must completly trust that person and be able to confide in him/her.I'm not asking for no problems in our relationship with my friends..problems are important too..that way you can see if your friendship is solid enough to face the problems.
eventually a friend is someone who lifts you up when you are down not the one who lets you down when you are happy.

so if your friends are in his(the man)side then tell them to give you some space..turst me there are more plenty of good luck to go around and have a good friendsso just alli'm trying to say is to holdyour head up and have a bit confidence.

Allah is always in your side and you will get rid of this nasty rumours.

Salaama..Wish you the best.

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samiira

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to bellboy


good answer

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