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| Monday, April 02, 2001 - 02:15 am |
hELP ME OUT BRO AND SIS
I really like this african american and he loves me lots i have known him for a long time but we have not dated cos i don't believe in that as we are both muslims. But he has a child and i don't know how to tell my parents. Do you think i should marry him or find myself a very good somali man but i really do like him a lot and he is everything i'm looking for in a man. I'm only 18 years old and at university sometimes i think i have soooooooooo much time for this marriage thing. So what do you all think i should do please hepl moi
| Monday, April 02, 2001 - 02:47 am |
I don't see any problem so far in what you said. let me get this right
you know this man,
he is muslim
he's got everything you were looking for in a man,
so what's is the problem?
just because he is an African american or he's got a child is not an excuse not tell your parent.
am i missing something ?
| Monday, April 02, 2001 - 04:43 am |
Yasmiin, you are only 18! Why the rush??? Finish your school, build your career, then marry whoever you want.
| Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 12:45 am |
THE PROBLEM IS THAT MY PARENTS MIGHT NOT LIKE HIM
| Tuesday, April 03, 2001 - 12:56 am |
how do you know, you haven't told them yet?
| Thursday, April 05, 2001 - 04:07 pm |
Yasmin, sis the most important thing is that the man is a Muslim, if he is a Muslim, then there is no reason as to why your parents should not except him on grounds that he is from another culture as that is against our religion...all Muslims are equal, whether he be a Somali Muslim, White Muslim, Australian Muslim etc etc, he is still a Muslim...the same as you.
| Wednesday, April 11, 2001 - 07:34 pm |
Sis yasmin you are only 18, you still do not know what you want in life. I know today you think that he is the right man for you and you are so much in love but do not let your mind fool you.
I thought, I was in love with this sister but after five years I realized she was not the right one for me. When I met her I was only 18.
Is not easy to know who is the right person for you at that early age. Believe me, after two or three years you will not feel the same way about him anymore. Remember you still growing up.
My best advise to you is finish your school and do not rush anything.....please do not disappoint your parents, is better with a Somalian brotha, because you both have a lot in comments "if you know what I mean" I have a brother who married a black sister and things are not the same with him and my family. Her mom and my mom do not even understand each others, anytime they try to have a conversation, they need interpreter "tell me this why would you put your mom in that situation?". Is not only that, is also about culture. We do not have the same culture. Honestly sometimes I hate my brother what he has done to my mom. Some nites she cry and she blames herself bring him in north America. I know for sure you do not understand this today but you will the day your own daughter bring you a total estranger to your home.
I hope this mean something to you little sis.
I Somalian brotha who knows your family will never do anything to hurt you or your family.
cite du stade.....
| Saturday, April 14, 2001 - 10:58 am |
If he is the one marry him you will never know if you gona live tommorow.
Build career and relationship at the same time, because both have equal weight for what I know.
Your family will fill bad first but they will accept it might take a while.
| Saturday, April 14, 2001 - 12:30 pm |
It seems th eliberal thing to say go for it as long as the two of you love each other. Believe me what I'm about to say is from experience. You or any one else should NOT marry a person that is outside of their culture. There is more to marriage then the two of you and consider everything before you do something that is forever. 18 years is a very young age you are practicaly a kid, so if you have to date, date but don't marry a nonSomalian that is my brotherly advice
| Sunday, April 15, 2001 - 12:24 am |
adiga lee hadhoow ha soo cabaadin you are one of the ladies who changed go ahead and don't regret tommorow coz your kids will be called names try you will find out a good somalian guys.
good bye and good luck